Advice for anyone who wants to be happier: pick the right friends.
For the increasing number of Americans who view happiness as a goal
in and of itself rather than (sorry to be so old-fashioned) the result
of, oh, leading a rewarding life or helping others or achieving
something—a trend I bemoaned recently—the latest study provides a simple recipe. Happiness, conclude political scientist James Fowler of UC San Diego and sociologist Nicholas Christakis
of Harvard Medical School, spreads far and wide through social
networks. Not only can one person’s happiness be infectious for those
in her immediate circle, but happiness can spread to friends of friends
of friends (that is, three degrees of separation). Therefore, pick
happy people to be your friends.
The same team reported last year
that obesity, too, can spread through social contagion. As Fowler told
Newsweek then, obesity is “spreading through ideas about what
appropriate behaviors are, or what an appropriate body image might be.”
Or as Christakis said, “If I see you gaining weight, and I respect you,
and want to emulate you in other ways, that changes my ideas about what
is an acceptable body size. I think, ‘All my buddies are getting obese,
so it’s OK for me to be obese too’.”
In the case of happiness, the scientists are reporting in a paper published online in BMJ (formerly the British Medical Journal)
this evening, the basic idea is that “one of the key determinants of
human happiness is the happiness of others,” said Christakis. Just as
with their obesity-is-contagious study, the scientists used data from
the Framingham Heart Study
to map out the social networks of 4,739 people whose happiness they
measured from 1983 to 2003 by asking how strongly four statements
described them: “I felt hopeful about the future”; “I was happy”; “I
enjoyed life”; and “I felt that I was just as good as other people.”
On average, they find, for every one happy friend in your social
network, your own chance of being happy rises by 9 percent. Every
unhappy friend decreases your chance of being happy by 7 percent. Not
surprisingly, the fewer degrees of separation between you and a happy
person the stronger their influence on your own mood. Being friends
with a happy person makes you 15 percent more likely to be happy;
having a friend who is a friend of a happy person makes you 10 percent
more likely to be happy, and having a friend whose friend’s friend is
happy makes that 6 percent.
I can see it now: Americans from coast to coast dumping their
depressed, dour, unhappy friends, shunning them like lepers. As if the
unhappy didn’t have enough to make them miserable.
The key question, of course, is whether the correlation the
researchers are reporting is causal. In other words, let’s accept that
your chance of being happy is a function of the number of happy people
among your friends and friends’ friends. But are those cheery pals
causing your happiness?
There is one head-scratching finding in the data. If one person
becomes happy (or happier), a friend living within a mile has a 25
percent greater-than-otherwise chance of becoming happy. But if your
spouse become happy, you have only an 8 percent increased chance at
moving up the happiness meter. If happiness is contagious, shouldn’t
spouses make more of a difference?
Alternative hypothesis time. Happy people, being superficial and
self-absorbed and delusional, can’t stand being around unhappy people,
and so won’t accept any as friends. Therefore the correlation between
the number of happy people you’re connected to and your own happiness
is just coincidental, not causal.
Christakiss argues instead that “the spread of emotion has a
fundamental psychobiological aspect.” “Physical personal interaction is
necessary, so the effect decays with distance”—which is why a friend
who lives within a mile of you and who becomes happy (or happier)
increases the chance that you, too, will feel happy, but a friend who
lives farther away has almost no effect.
All you unhappy people out there can now obsess on yet another reason
for feeling miserable: you’re not doing your part to increase your
social network’s level of happiness. At least sadness does not spread
through social networks they way happiness does, the researchers
conclude—but while you may not be infecting people with your glumness
you are still failing in your responsibility to increase humanity’s sum
total of joy. For isn't that our paramount goal these days?