It is ironic that Kate Dailey's column is called "the human condition" when she understands so little about the human condition.  I get her point - violence is a bad no-no/sticks and stones can break my bones, but names can never hurt me - and I even agree with it, but she just doesn't know how to make a decent argument or write a decent article.  A 5-year old could have made her "violence is bad" argument without insulting women!   All of her articles are superficial, silly,l and poorly argued. All of them.

As many have pointed out, her comparing an isolated scuffle between two strangers of equal gender status (both  male) to ongoing domestic violence between men and women, which often leads to the hospitalization (to the tune of millions per year) and sometimes death of women is stunningly insensitive.  She has no understanding of power, gender, context, etc. All she understands is that violence is bad and mean and she thinks it's a good idea to exploit the suffering of women to defend Perez Hilton, whose homophobia, sexism, and racism in this situatation are completely under-analyzed. I'm not saying that being homphobic, racist, and sexist justifies violence. I am saying that the comparison of this ridiculous situation to the complex global phenomenon domestic violence insults my intelligence.

The author doesn't seem to understand sexism, homophobia, or racism which she fails to adequately address in the article. As a result, she ends up reproducing the very sexism, homophobia, and racism that she thinks she's critiquing.  Maybe she should just stop writing about topics that she clearly doesn't understand.

I can't believe this is a Newsweek blog. I used to respect that publication. Not anymore.  I'm offended.

Perez Hilton is a hypocritical, sad, insecure little man who feeds off the unhappiness of others. How he has been elevated to some level of "celebrity" is beyond comprehension. Another way to voice your unhappiness over Perez Hilton and his hateful musings: http://www.petitionspot.com/petitions/RemovePerez/

This is America and he is free to spout whatever lies and ill will he chooses - I, however, do not want my kids directed to his website. Shame on you Teen Choice Awards for nominating him for anything on a kid's show - when typically teen stars are his favorite target for his crude, inappropriate doodlings.

PROOF POSITIVE...

perez has censored/deleted my posts..

it had no slurs, no insults, nothing....just a direct quote from judy shephered of the matthew shepherd foundation saying she doesn't want his money....and that she's had no contact with him before or after....

so....the free speecher doesn't allow free speech on his message board......

the ultimate hypocrisy....lets see if this post makes it....

Just read this statement from Judy Shepard from their website:

The Matthew Shepard Foundation was surprised to learn this morning via media reports that blogger Perez Hilton (Mario Lavandeira) has announced he plans to donate, to our organization, the proceeds of a lawsuit he is contesting over an altercation which has been widely reported in recent days.

We had no advance notice or contact from Mr. Hilton or his representatives regarding this proposal, nor any communication since he posted this plan to his website.

We very much appreciate the generosity of the offer to support our continuing work to memorialize Matthew through activism in defense of sexual minorities and in favor of understanding, compassion, and acceptance. But because so much of our work involves education to reduce the use of hateful language against gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgendered persons, or those so perceived, it would be inappropriate for us to benefit financially from circumstances in which such a verbal attack was involved.

While we applaud Mr. Hilton's apology to the LGBT community and their loved ones for his use of such a slur, we also feel compelled to point out that use of epithets can often lead to physical violence, as it appears it may have in this case, and that the Matthew Shepard Foundation has worked for more than 10 years to bring to people's attention the consequences of hateful or inolerant language.

Judy Shepard

Kate - Stop hiding behind this "victim blaming" as the central point of your article. Your article completely missed the mark by using Perez's situation as an example. Perez has already issued an apology. Now you should, too. You should apologize to true victims of rape and domestic violence for diluting their situations by comparing it with what happened to Perez.

It's too bad Kate Dailey couldn't be troubled to edit her article for basic spelling and grammar errors (e.g., "sitting their minding their own bussiness").  If you don't care enough about it to read it over before publishing it, you can't expect anyone else to either.

Personally, I think that this article is kind of BS.  People need to realize he wasn't beaten up.  He was punched a couple of times.  He was seriously asking for it "I was going to say the worst thing I thought that.. thug would want to hear." Do you think that Will.I.Am was asking for the verbal attack?  I don't think so.  That is like saying that if a wife who got punched in the face who continually verbally abuses her children gets punched in the face by her husband in one incident (not over and over or a regular thing).  So she calls the police and uses it as something to claim herself as the victim of the whole situation while the children (who are the real victims) are forgotten in the background while she milks it for all of the soppy poor yous she can get.  

I completely disagree with this article under the circumstances.  Your use of a wife getting beaten as an example is not even worth the text you waste on this article.  I am so sick of people being hypocritical.  Parents tell their kids that violence is never the answer but they turn around and spank them.  We learn as children that if certain things come out of your mouth or do something you aren't supposed to do, you're going to get popped in the face.  Don't be surprised when people try to teach people lessons (constructive or otherwise) as adults.  I bet you he wont do that again (say it to someone's face). If he was beaten up for it I would feel sorry for him.  A pop in the face for what he said and still continues to say (not in someone's face mind you) is perfectly acceptable.  

If I would have been Mario in the situation I would have thanked the person for waking me up and stopping me from further embarrassing myself.  His seemingly rehearsed blog about the incident is ridiculous.  Your article and his blog basically condone verbal abuse (as in no matter how much verbal abuse you inflict on someone you should be perfectly safe)... not acceptable.  Not everyone has a sharp tongue to defend themselves with.  They have a fist.  Verbal scars are worse than physical most of the time. Don't get me wrong, physical abuse is not acceptable either.  I guess it depends on how a person defines it for themselves. This situation just includes physical violence and one ignorant, hypocritical, abusive mouth.  If he was beaten, again, it would be different.  He needs to be a big boy, learn his lesson, and get over it.

Firstly, Perez Hilton is a human being, and to refer to any person as less than that is probably worse than Perez Hilton calling Will I Am a f******.  And, if you weren't already aware, human beings can do very despicable and atrocious things, but they are still human beings, not very nice ones, but human beings none the less.

The reality in this situation is that Perez Hilton IS a gossip blogger.  We live in a world obsessed with the spotlight, and for the Black Eyed Peas to ask a gossip blogger to stop gossip blogging about them = a bad life choice and a stupid decision all around.  And then to hit a gossip blogger?  It should have been common knowledge that hitting Perez would not help their cause, and would just increase the percentage of how much he would discuss and draw things on them.

Again, the reality: gossip blogging is how Perez Hilton probably eats, pays his rent and feeds his dog, because I doubt he works at Starbucks on the side.  He is good at what he does, hence how popular his website is, but in any situation it's all laughs until the jokes on you.  When you're in the spotlight, you get paid the big bucks, and with all of this extra cash flow coming in, there are these different life circumstances where your every move is magnified and people draw on your face, and maybe say not-so-nice things about you.  

But regardless of what someone says to you or ABOUT you, you cannot go around assaulting people.  You don't see Lindsay Lohan going around and slugging people in the face.  She just continues to live her train wrecked life, ignoring what people say, and trying to figure things out.  One person who commented seems to be confused, but words are not fists or punches.  Sure, what Perez said wasn't the most appropriate way to handle the situation.  He could've just went home and drawn all over their faces to relieve some of his frustration.  But he was at a club, he probably had a few drinks and his lips were feeling a bit loose.  Not that alcohol is an excuse for anything, because everyone is accountable for his or her own actions and Hilton's choice of words, you know, maybe weren't well chosen.  He probably should have went with the other f-word.  But, I'm sure every gay male has a free pass to throw out that particular f-word at least once in his life, without people throwing fingers and gasped mouths all over the place.  It's one of those confusing words, like where a person of an African-American descent (Canadian in my case) drops the n-bomb, and it's all confusing, because you feel awkward and there is all of this dark history behind the word, and now it’s in all of these rap songs every 4 seconds.  And I am not too aware of Will I Am being a homosexual male, but that word is supposed to be a term of abuse denoting a gay male, and if Will I Am isn't gay, then doesn't it cancel itself out and mean a bundle of sticks?  

But point being: you cannot go around hitting people.  And that's when we need to know how and when to control our anger, because sometimes when people get angry the line gets fuzzy, and we cross it and bad things happen.  Rhianna might have called Chris Brown a f***** that night, no one knows what really went down (although I don't know if I could picture that..) ... BUT so does that mean poor Rhianna deserved to get beat down... obviously not.  Pauvre Rhianna and pauvre Perez.  People hate Perez, and that’s fine, but that doesn’t mean you get to define when violence is tolerable, because violence is never okay.

The Black Eyed Peas need to take a deep breath, count to ten, and walk away.

Does Newsweek have an address that i can submit my work to?  Do you pay this woman? Is there really so little writing talent out there? My 12 year old daughter writes/edits better than this.

as to the incident, this is not a world of rainbows, kittens and cotton candy. violence sometimes is in fact the only answer. if more people understood this it would be a better world.

As a woman, I'm appalled that you would even thought that this is the same thing as rape. That has to be the more ignorant thing to ever write, and I really truly wonder how this made it pass your editor. Are you serious with this piece of drivel? Perez went into a club where the BEP's were at, and instead of being civilized and acting like an adult, he starts spouting hateful and ugly things to a woman who is just doing her job and minding her own business. If she had hit him, would htat have been okay? That whole violence never solves anything is a load of crap, because there are some people out there who do deserve the snot being beat out of them. And Perez is not a damn human being. He's scum that lies on gum after being scraped off a shoe and lying in the sun for weeks. You seriously owe rape victims and TRUE victims of hate crimes an apology for writing such bullshit.

I see a lot of people, including the author, trying to compare this situation to domestic abuse between a man and a woman.

Wolfman6, you tell us to look at the situation regardless of who the people are. Ok, 2 males get in an altercation at a club. One of them is being polite, asking the other to not say rude and nasty things, the second male, responds by calling him a f****t.

Now, in a real world situation regardless of who the individuals were, what do you think would happen?

Wolfman6 - If Perez were a victim, then I would agree with Dailey's article. However, we all know that Perez was not at all a vicitim. He threw the first punch with that vile word. Dailey should recant and apologize to true abuse and rape victims for even putting them in the same article as Perez Hilton. Her intention was good but it was inappropriately written.

So it was Hilton's intent to show how homophobic straight black men are? He's a sociologist now? Who knew? I think karma does come into play when I look at the events of that evening. Only a drunk or crazy person gets in a stranger's face, spouting slurs and expects no response! In the U.S., those are called Fighting Words!

Per Wikipedia:

Fighting words are written or spoken words, generally expressed to incite hatred or violence from their target. Specific definitions, freedoms, and limitations of fighting words vary by jurisdiction. It is also used in a general sense of words which when uttered create (deliberately or not) a verbal or even physical confrontation by their mere usage.

I think Hilton is repugnant; however, if he had been walking down the street minding his business and he was attacked, I'd be first in line to defend his rights. Opening his flap to incite someone places some onus with "the victim". He admittedly used "***" because he knew it was the worse thing he could say. Maybe this will be his "Aha Moment" and he'll begin to take responsibility for his actions in life. I doubt it.

If I say "Wassup, whitey?" to a Klansman, I can pretty much predict what's gonna happen. Duh!

In a perfect world, no one would resort to violence to settle disputes. But in that same world, no one would use slurs to illicit a response. This world ain't perfect.

I'm a gay black male and I approved this message.

Perez Hilton is an ass, pure and simple. Its a clown that believes it can say anything without fear of reprocussion. It should have the common sense to know when its gone to far and shut the hell up and leave.Too bad it didnt.

While I dont condone the act of knocking this loudmouth down two or three notches, you have to admit one thing, It was gonna happen sooner or later.

Some say it has the first amendment right, all rights believe it or not do come with some limitations. You cant yell fire in a crowded theater, PH probably would and think it funny all the while.

Anyone that goes up to a person that is bigger, badder,and in this case brighter, than they are and start throwing slurs around, can not hide behind the law. You run your mouth to long to the wrong person, they WILL help you shut it.

With the freedoms and rights in our system, you still have to exercise good judgement. PH did not. And got smacked in the mouth for it.

For those of you that wonder why I refer to PH as IT, I have no respect for a whinny little P. O. S. like that.

No, we would not be cheering if Perez got killed. But that's not what happened. And getting in a scuffle outside of a bar and getting killed are two ENTIRELY DIFFERENT THINGS that are not comparable. How often does someone get killed for calling another guy an a**hole? Not very often.

Ok, yeah, let's take the names away. Two grown men get to silly arguing in a club, one calls the other fa**ot, that one gets punched. I'm sorry, but I have a hard time mustering sympathy for either of them. And I really am offended that Mrs. Dailey would compare a bar fight to a woman getting raped.

I'm admittedly the scum of humanity.

Well said Wolfman6. You expressed a lot of things I could not find the words for

Normally, I would be in the corner of the author of this piece.  It is reprehensible for violence to take place.  The Chris Brown saga and resulting polls show just how biased towards the victim society has become.  However, it has to be noted that if I go into a bar (the venue described in this assault) and verbally assault someone, especially someone bigger than myself, I should expect the melee to ensue.  Not that I condone the violence, but verbally provoking someone in a bar has a very likely consequence, which is what happened here.  Yes it is wrong.  Yes the laws of society will punish the offender.  The outcome however, was very predictable given the verbal sparring and venue.  Common sense, of which Perez Hilton seems to be devoid, would have told him the outcome before he shot his mouth off...

Most of these comments scare me a little. I don't care what someone's said about you or to you, we cannot hit them. Period. I don't care who it is. Man, woman, child.

As for karma- I'm pretty sure that part of the issue above my rank. I can't decide what's coming to anyone, and I certainly don't have the right to administer it.

Kate Dailey is right on the mark and most of you here are doing exactly what she spoke of - blaming the victim.  I am a gay man and I think Perez Hilton is an overaged teenager and a bully.  His verbal abuse is inexcusable and especially the use of the particular slur he used.  But people - you are downplaying this because it was just a fist.  What is the Black Eyed Peas manager had pulled out a gun and killed Hilton?  Would you say he got what he deserved?  Many would and those people will never understand the point of Ms. Dailey's article.

Dailey is 100% correct.  You need to quit thinking of who the participants were and the specific actions and view how this can be applied to any situation.  The woman who says the wrong thing to her man and he then beats her for it.  Did she get what she deserved?  No.  The prostitute in the super short miniskirt and her cleavage hanging out gets raped.  She was asking for it?  She got what she deserved?  No.  Just because she's a whore does not mean she should be raped.  Just because a woman (or it could be a man beat by his wife, a gay couple, a lesbian couple - does not matter) confronts her man for not paying a bill or finds out he was cheating and he beats or even kills her.  A drunk calls someone an *hole in a bar and the "victim" of the slur punches or even kills the drunk.  Did the drunk get what he deserved?  No.  No one deserves to be a victim of violence.

I have been the victim of verbal attacks and had beer bottles thrown at me by teenagers in a car while walking back to my hotel in Niagra Falls with my partner.  Ms. Dailey used this situation in her article.  Did my partner and I deserve the attack just because we were walking down the street where some jerk kids happened to be driving by?  What if it was not beer bottles - or even with beer bottles - what if one of us had been struck and injured?  What if those kids had pulled a gun and shot one or both of us?  Should we have known better than to walk down the street in an unfamiliar area?

You are all just happy Hilton got hit.  That is so wrong no matter what kind of person he is.  I don't like him, I don't defend what he does or says, in fact I wish he would crawl back into the hole he crawled out of and just go away.

Those who are saying you can't compare this situation to rape or domestic violence or other situations - I ask you why not?  Sure what happened here is no where near the violence of those situations.but it easily could have turned into a worse situation than it is.  The manager's actions still were unwarranted.  He should have just walked away from Hilton and let it go.

I'm sorry people - Dailey is right.  Quit blaming the victim.  That is one of the major problems with our society.  I agree - the manager was a victim of Hilton's.  Hilton is a bully.  He provoked the situation - I can't deny that.  But you could say the same about a rape victim, a victim of domestic violence, etc.  Understand the point and leave out your personal feelings about the victim.  We have all been the victim of Hollywood - we watch movies where someone is victimized in some way and then retaliates against the assailant.  We root for the victim to kill the assailant.  We all do - I do it, too.  You are all putting the manager into that role and cheering him for hitting back.

But this is not a movie and this is real life.  But I can tell - if someone would kill Hilton, you'd all be cheering and say "He got what he deserved."  The human race is pathetic.

For this writer to compare the troll that is Perez Hilton to a cleavage-bearing rape victim is ABSURD! All derivative assertions (e.g. John Mayer condones violence) are likewise absurd. What the writer fails to realize is almost ANY human who is dumped on long enough will eventually punch their bully in the face. However, it takes a monster to rape somebody--regardless of the circumstances. Therefore, Perez had it coming to her. A rape victim, however, never does.

None of the powerful advocates for gay civil rights are supporting Perez. None of the leaders in the fight to end violence against gays and women are coming to Perez's defense. Not even the people who make their living walking the thin line between freedom of speech and plain hate  speech are coming to his defense. Just a few of his minions who call him "sweet" all the while laughing at his latest description Of Sadie Sandler's face. The masses, including those with real power are laughing at him. And by ignoring him, are sending a clear message  that they are not buying his bull. He must feel really lonely right now knowing the truth.

I think the issue here is victim blaming, rather than directly comparing Perez's slap to hate crimes, domestic violence etc.  This comparison is just a vehicle to raise an issue.  At the core of this article is the issue is blaming a victim of a physical attack (however minor Perez's injuries are in your opinion), for the actions of the person who committed the violent act.  I don't think anyone is suggesting that Perez Hilton is an upstanding citizen, but I think the aim of this article is to ask a question about "deserving a slap". What does it mean that Perez (or anyone) deserved to be physically injured?  I think the author is comparing a relatively "minor" incident where a gossip monger ticked off the wrong person, to more "serious" cases of violence, to stress that victim blame is victim blame, regardless of the severity of the injury.  Sure Perez is a pain in the ass to a lot of people, but it says a lot about humanity that we as a whole, feel he "had it coming".  That we cannot muster sympathy for him, I think, is a separate issue.  For our first utterance to be "what did he expect" is a sad occurrence.  If someone winds you up enough that you feel physical rage, why would you lower yourself to their level by lashing out? ( This is obviously where the Perez case differs greatly from domestic violence, hate crimes, sexual assault etc.)  I think it is an interesting, and most insightful observation by the author, and not one that would necessarily have sprung to my mind. Have read her point of view, I think I understand her point, and it can be applied to various instances, for example asking "what did she (wearing a short skirt, walking through a dimly lit area, alone at night) expect?", which is neither productive, nor sympathetic to the victim.  It implies that the victim has done something wrong, and in fact dilutes the weight of the crime committed.  Perhaps the victim made an unwise choice in doing/saying something, but I fail to see how someone can be held accountable for violence inflicted upon them.  It is simply toxic, and extremely harmful to social interaction. Perez Hilton's "incident" highlights a lesser example of a dangerous human reaction to physical violence.  His choice to "twitter" about the alleged assault says a lot about him, and his values, but that is not the thesis of the article.

I think it's disgusting that you would compare Perez Hilton's situation to that of Matthew Sheppard's. Perez did not get assaulted because he is a gay man, and while violence is never acceptable, you can't deny that Hilton had a hand in antagonizing the attack. Both parties are in the wrong here. This whole situation just sickens me,

Also, the fact that an alleged gay rights activist would use hate speech to provoke another person is just despicable, and continues the desensitization of gay slurs in society.

I agree with zolutera. There is a need for the media to take things out of context and universalize them to gain sympathy for the subject of the story. This wasn't domestic violence. Far from it. I don't condone violence however for Perez HE needed to realize that there is a line he can cross and did, that again was the Karma for him. On the reverse if a woman was getting abused and finally hit her husband and made him bleed, he would probably never touch her again. But it's not the other way around. Perez is the abuser, not the victim. That's why sympathy is lacking for him.

I could not remain silent on what an absolutely interesting tactic you chose to take for this story.  If Will.I.Am. had called Perez a f*gg*t, his career would be on life support, if not over.  Just like Isaiah Washington and Carrie Prejean, he would have been publicly flayed.  However, Perez does this and only ONE of the major sites are reporting it in the title of their story (the Huffington Post).  E! didn't even mention it on their original reporting, which I find so incredibly shocking given the volatility of that word. Instead, the major lead in seems to be "Perez feuding" or "Perez victimized".  Really?

How do you draw the parallel of Perez and a domestic violence victim and still NOT mention that Perez took to his website and ERRONEOUSLY accused a man of assault? Threatening to ruin their career, cursing Fergie (a woman) out in vile fashion, etc.  I just don't understand. He accused a man of beating him that DID NOT...a celebrity whose name was tarnished. Yet, Will took to his own vlog and calmly stated the facts, saying he never touched Perez.  He didn't curse him out, ridicule him for his sexuality, or give us any histrionics.Instead, he handled himself like a gentleman..and yet Perez is still the cause that needs defending?

I daresay, if the roles of the entire situation were reversed, this would have been handled MUCH differently by the media.    If people don't feel sorry he got punched, perhaps they see it as a fight between two equals.  Violence is ugly and unnecessary, but there IS such a thing as two men getting into a scuffle.

I truly hope you issue an apology tomorrow for comparing what happened to Perez to true victims of domestic violence. It is absolutely shameful that you did that in your article.

take away te Perez and Will.I.Am names.

imagine 2 guys at a bar. suddenly one turns around and calls the other a ***. the latter gets angry and throws a punch. can u blame him?

and now put back the names in the picture. i enjoy reading his site, but Perez has antagonised countless people with his comments. i can imagine the pent up anger many have of him, and can't wait to release the energy on him. and that certainly was an invitation to.

and some of John Mayer's tweets:

- I love that @perezhilton uses his cellphone to log on to twitter to post a tweet to ask his followers to call the police for him.

- @perezhilton's video statement is so long that by the end of it his cut healed.

they're hilarious and they totally make sense!

I'm not one that approves of violence, but I do believe in karma. Perez Hilton got what he deserved. If you ever go on his site (and I admit I've peeked from time to time), the things he says and the drawing he does are so snarky and mean. He makes Rona Barrett (remember her?) look tame. It's like reading the mind of a teenage mean girl stuck in the body of a thirtysomething gay man. Certain women he worships, but most women he hates for whatever reason, like their looks or how they dress or their weight or for not being Latina enough or being part of the Lucky Egg/Sperm Club (having famous parents and breaking into the family business) or simply for dating a hunk Perez has the hots for. What's really sad is that while he smears celebrities on his site, you can tell he wants to be one of them. He's nothing more than a famewhore with no talent  and not the sharpest knife in the drawer. If even GLAAD is cutting you off, you're really screwed. With all his preaching about gay rights, he has no problem using the slur on others. Hypocrite! Time for Perez to turn in his gay card and to be sent back to Oblivionville where he belongs.

Lets get to the point real quick shall we, this twerp is in somebody's face spitting his god only knows what diseases aroun,d and with a foul mouth to boot, and the victim is the aggressor?

Can any of you bleeping morons tell me why Surgeons wear surgical masks? and or face protectors?, has ever occurred to any one posting here what Swine Flu is all about? and how it is transported?

If this fruit bag were in my face he'd found his lips attached to the ground he was standing on, right quick.

Some of you may suffer these fools lightly I DON"T it is your personal health being put at risk by detritus such as  this and the writer want's us forget that our personal safety is to be left up for grabs when the police show up at their leisure, the writer should check herself into the Mayo Clinic and have a round of electrical shock therapy to bring her back to reality; and or have them check for a vacuum.

EX you never know where the persons lips have  had carnal knowledge of some one else s genitals

and you want them spitting on you while professing their ignorance?

Before any you jump on my wagon my business partner is a lesbian, and she agrees with me.

So if a man was to call a woman a "*** whore", it wouldn't be justified for her to hit him? And if she did, HE would be "the victim"? Perez Hilton is no victim. He said words with the purpose of eliciting aggression from Will.i.am - it was no accident on his part - and he got it. He's also a huge hypocrite because he himself has made light of violence in the past - like he did when Jesse Metcalfe got pummeled outside a club. He uses the "morality" card only when it benefits him. His double-standard exists solely so he can sensationalize this ridiculous incident. I am going to go against the "moral" grain here and say that Perez Hilton deserved it. He's a disgusting, misogynistic, shallow human being with absolutely no brain to speak of.

And one other thing...how the heck can you see Perez Hilton's actions and responses as "mature"? I don't see his comments to John Mayer as mature, I see it as him shrinking away from a spectacular argument on Mayer's part. Hilton handled this immaturely from beginning to end - from reporting on his Twitter that Will.i.am hit him when he knew very well that it WAS NOT Will.i.am, all before calling the police, to posting an 11 minute video filled with expletives, fake tears, and a sensationalized story.

So if a man was to call a woman a "*** whore", it wouldn't be justified for her to hit him? And if she did, HE would be "the victim"? Perez Hilton is no victim. He said words with the purpose of eliciting aggression from Will.i.am - it was no accident on his part - and he got it. He's also a huge hypocrite because he himself has made light of violence in the past - like he did when Jesse Metcalfe got pummeled outside a club. He uses the "morality" card only when it benefits him. His double-standard exists solely so he can sensationalize this ridiculous incident. I am going to go against the "moral" grain here and say that Perez Hilton deserved it. He's a disgusting, misogynistic, shallow human being with absolutely no brain to speak of.

And one other thing...how the heck can you see Perez Hilton's actions and responses as "mature"? I don't see his comments to John Mayer as mature, I see it as him shrinking away from a spectacular argument on Mayer's part. Hilton handled this immaturely from beginning to end - from reporting on his Twitter that Will.i.am hit him when he knew very well that it WAS NOT Will.i.am, all before calling the police, to posting an 11 minute video filled with expletives, fake tears, and a sensationalized story.

You have got to be kidding me!  Comparing the abuse endured by "women and assault victims" to Perez Hilton getting whacked in the head is atrocious.  He is not the long term victim of abuse! He is the abuser.  He chose to get into a confrontation with those people and now he's whining about this???  In no way should he be looked upon as a victim or compared to what real women go through in domestic violence situations.  What kinda of an incompassionate idiot allowed this to go online?  

What a sham of a writer. Taking the side of everybody in the press and ganging up on John Mayer because that's what all the tabloids are doing is pretty pathetic. Plus, for the writer to equate Perez with a victim of sexual assault is absolutely appalling. Give me a break.

The author is clearly biased against Mayer and seems to want to defend Hilton.  People like this author love to jump into someone elses situation and use it to promote their own agendas.

I mean, who really cares what these people did or did not do.  All of them, including the author are into self promotion.l

Accountable like Chris Brown?

You know that Chris Brown hit a girl right?

You also know that Will.I.Am's manager hit another man?

Who deservers a beating?  Well obviouly Perez deserverd one and he got it.  Although a single blow to the head hardly constitutes a beating.

Sometimes people ask for a beating with their behaviour and sometimes they get their wish.

No one deserve to get punched, not ever Perez. Will and his people are big jerks and should be held accountable like Chris Brown. Mayer is a disgusting pig looking for someone else back to ride back up the ladder. Mayer act so gay.

Mayer had no right getting involved in this. We all know he is mad at Perez because Mayer got caught lying that he made out with Perez. Mayer has no room to talk look at what he said to Pink "he only date stupid girls" Mayer should shut up.

It's funny, Perez is a person who has made his living through no accomplishment of his own. He merely talks about others. That's it. I enjoy reading what he says. I think he can be funny at times. However, when you make your living calling people "slutty" or "stupid b**ches " I don't understand how you can't expect people to get a little annoyed with you. If Perez had insulted my close friends the way he has openly insulted others I would have a word or two with him as well. If his response was to call me a "***" and shove me there is a good chance he would get punched.

  Perez can't have it both ways. Calling a woman who disagrees with gay marriage a "stupid bi**h " and then calling another who doesn't like what he has to say a "***"  show's how hypocritical he is. Perez can flaunt the 1st amendment all he wants, the bottom line is when you attack people they will attack you back. Grow up Perez. Be a man. Handle yourself with dignity and respect and people will treat you likewise. Arrogantly attack people, and they will attack you back.

regardless of who handled this situation maturely or immaturely, i think in this case the war of words Perez spoke to will.i.am should not beget violence.  if anything, were will.i.am was more of a gentlemen, he would have removed himself and his crew from the situation knowing full well that anyone of them hitting Perez was not the answer.  is Perez a douche for inciting an incident. yes.  should he have been hit?  maybe.  should will.i.am's manager hit him.  definitely not.  in situations like this it's best to just remove yourself from the situation before it escalates to something uncontrollable.  as for john mayer, he's just inserting himself into the situation because he's irrelevant these days.  

"This whole discussion is just a 21st century version of what women and assault victims have been hearing for years. The logic that it falls on the victim to prevent irrational actions of the assailant is really outdated and really, really dangerous."

There is a huge difference between an abused wife or spouse; a victim of robbery, sexual assault, racial profiling, or sexual orientation, and a person who makes a living as an antagonist of people in the public forum. Yes - I do agree with his freedom to make a living and his freedom of speech. But he must deal with the consequences. Maybe it is this society's slide into not taking responsibility for  a person's own actions. The guy who punched him (I am surprised it took this long for someone to) turned himself in, he took responsibility for what he did. For Hilton to take this public is such a way and use it for his own publicity shows what kind of disgusting self promoting parasite he really is. "Any publicity is good publicity" - right? Yeah - its funny how Hilton uses the anti-gay slurs to provoke people. Then when he gets popped, he goes and cries to the very people he defamed and slandered. Seems like a slap in the face to LGBT people fighting for equality everywhere. I never really liked Jon Mayer until I  read this.

@Janemargret

As well as having a mother, I also had a father, which along with a lot of other fathers all over the country, told their son that respect is the most important thing in the world, violence is a necessary evil in the world (In correct situations). Another lesson that my father and a lot of other fathers taught their sons is that you do not let someone disrespect you. Free speech is amazing, but when it becomes for the sole purpose of causing someone emotional stress and overall to just be malicious toward someone.

Perez should be aloud and able to express his opinion to it's full extent. Not at the cost of others well being. You may think i am condoning violence against others. I am not, but I believe that a male has the right to defend himself and his friends from slander and overall maliciousness.

The manager did not assault him multiple times, it was a punch, a deserved punch. As boys we are taught that there is a stopping point to fights. If he had wanted to hurt Perez seriously, I would assume that it would have been done.

You cannot compare the violence between 2 males to the violence between and man and a woman which in inexcusable. The things Perez says are some of the most hateful things that are possible.

What world does he live in that he is allowed to say those things and not face consequences, violence SHOULD not be the answer, but in situations where a male is disrespecting another male to that extent, in the world we live in, something is going to happen. Should the person have done it? No, was it a outrageous act? No, it is what every other person would have done given the situation of watching your friend get outright DISRESPECTED.

It is unacceptable that Perez is up in arms when all he has is a black eye, and meanwhile the things he said to them will never go away. Normally when someone says something of the nature he was saying them, you get more than just a single punch.

Oh Ms. Janemargaret - violence is no excuse. But violence comes in physical and verbal form. And Perez's use of the vile word was essentially the first punch. He meant to invoke action and incite Will I. AM - who by the way did not hit him.

Kate's article is TOTALLY off the mark. She dilutes the nature of domestic violence by even putting it in the same context as Perez Hilton.

Kate - I think you should retract your statements and apologize to victims of domestic violence. You added insult to injury by even comparing what happened to Perez to what true victims suffer.

look, why do people find what perez hilton says so important anyway? perez has no real "power". people buy into him, his mystique, and his rhetoric- they build a shrine to him. shrines are meaningless! the work that perez hilton does is meaningless. what has has done is find a way to make himself as "important" as others in the celebrity industry. he has no talent. he is a meanie. we could theorize perez's what issues perez might be dealing with- homophobia, narcissism, inferiority complex, superiority complex, low self-esteem, histronics. perez is a wanna-be. somehow people have overlooked this and have become a fan instead. perez is a bully. a bully is someone who feels badly about themselves and victimize other people (verbally, emotionally or physically) in order to make themselves feel better.

i wish perez a life-changing experience out of this situation. he needs to acknowledge that he has the ability to, and does, hurt others. perhaps he has justified in his mind his designed lot in life and somehow that makes his work okay with him. he admittedly knew what he was doing when he called someone else a "f*gg*t". he took the risk. he paid dearly. he is as much to blame for wrong-doing as the violent manager. he used terminology that other straight men use to offend enemies when initiating a physical battle. perez is smart enough to know this. i'd be surprised if he didn't catch a lot of flack from the gay community for his choice of words.

i do hope that perez takes a long, hard look at himself and that this incident shakes his world. in his "my statement" he was obviously scared and shaken. it's disheartening that he has gone back to work today, posting in the same mean-spirited style that he has become famous for.

in the end, people are going to remember perez as that guy who wrote of bunch of vile, nasty things about other people, out of jealousy. they are not going to remember him for any meaningful contributions to society or his fellow man. that is, of course, unless he changes his course of action and uses his "power" and intellect toward good. how about using his platform to become an advocate for social causes?? he sort of does already with certain issues.

as he shamed will.i.am for lying and outright scolded him by saying that god looking down upon him most unfavorably, perez should take a good look at himself first before putting himself up on that self-righteous pedestal and saying those things to others.

in sum, if will.i.am and company hadn't have built a shrine to the "importance" of perez's words, maybe they would have walked away. feeling powerless they resorted to violence. yay ego. perez feels powerless, that's why he does what he does. bullies are violent perpetrators against humanity, in any form, any way you dice it. it's a sad situation all around.

let's tear down that shrine. everything is arbitrary in life anyway.

VIOLENCE IS ALWAYS THE ANSWER

MAYBE NOW THAT f A G G OT PEREZ HILTON WILL STOP MAKING FUN OF PEOPLE

HE GOT WHAT HE DESERVED

I believe you are ignoring one very important precept here. I hate to bring gender into it, but this is how men work. A man should be able to accept a punch int he face if he thinks he is capable of calling a man a *** in a club. Your little website is one thing, it is not even significant enough to warrant notice from actual artists, but you don't do it to a man's face. Whatever Perez Hilton's relationship is tot he gay community, he is not immune to how men work. Call it barbaric, but what is the mroe efficient process for putting these kinds of things behind us? Should we tie ourselves up in silly legislation? Or should we set the situation straight as straightforwardly as possible?

Obviously the argument does not apply to women, unless they too would like to settle things with each other in our way. They are welcome to. The point is, Perez has broken man code by pressing charges, especially since the guy didn't even hit him hard enough to leave a mark. You dish it in your own bitchy way, and you will be handled the best way we know how. And yes, he did deserve it. Directing coarse and offensive language at a man in private conversation absolutely warrants a punch.

My own admittedly slanted blog covers this... thegentlemansclub.wordpress.com

look, why do people find what perez hilton says so important anyway? perez has no real "power". people buy into him, his mystique, and his rhetoric- they build a shrine to him. shrines are meaningless! the work that perez hilton does is meaningless. what has has done is find a way to make himself as "important" as others in the celebrity industry. he has no talent. he is a meanie. we could theorize perez's what issues perez might be dealing with- homophobia, narcissism, inferiority complex, superiority complex, low self-esteem, histronics. perez is a wanna-be. somehow people have overlooked this and have become a fan instead. perez is a bully. a bully is someone who feels badly about themselves and victimize other people (verbally, emotionally or physically) in order to make themselves feel better.

i wish perez a life-changing experience out of this situation. he needs to acknowledge that he has the ability to, and does, hurt others. perhaps he has justified in his mind his designed lot in life and somehow that makes his work okay with him. he admittedly knew what he was doing when he called someone else a "f*gg*t". he took the risk. he paid dearly. he is as much to blame for wrong-doing as the violent manager. he used terminology that other straight men use to offend enemies when initiating a physical battle. perez is smart enough to know this. i'd be surprised if he didn't catch a lot of flack from the gay community for his choice of words.

i do hope that perez takes a long, hard look at himself and that this incident shakes his world. in his "my statement" he was obviously scared and shaken. it's disheartening that he has gone back to work today, posting in the same mean-spirited style that he has become famous for.

in the end, people are going to remember perez as that guy who wrote of bunch of vile, nasty things about other people, out of jealousy. they are not going to remember him for any meaningful contributions to society or his fellow man. that is, of course, unless he changes his course of action and uses his "power" and intellect toward good. how about using his platform to become an advocate for social causes?? he sort of does already with certain issues.

as he shamed will.i.am for lying and outright scolded him by saying that god looking down upon him most unfavorably, perez should take a good look at himself first before putting himself up on that self-righteous pedestal and saying those things to others.

in sum, if will.i.am and company hadn't have built a shrine to the "importance" of perez's words, maybe they would have walked away. feeling powerless they resorted to violence. yay ego. perez feels powerless, that's why he does what he does. bullies are violent perpetrators against humanity, in any form, any way you dice it. it's a sad situation all around.

let's tear down that shrine. everything is arbitrary in life anyway.

look, why do people find what perez hilton says so important anyway? perez has no real "power". people buy into him, his mystique, and his rhetoric- they build a shrine to him. shrines are meaningless! the work that perez hilton does is meaningless. what has has done is find a way to make himself as "important" as others in the celebrity industry. he has no talent. he is a meanie. we could theorize perez's what issues perez might be dealing with- homophobia, narcissism, inferiority complex, superiority complex, low self-esteem, histronics. perez is a wanna-be. somehow people have overlooked this and have become a fan instead. perez is a bully. a bully is someone who feels badly about themselves and victimize other people (verbally, emotionally or physically) in order to make themselves feel better.

i wish perez a life-changing experience out of this situation. he needs to acknowledge that he has the ability to, and does, hurt others. perhaps he has justified in his mind his designed lot in life and somehow that makes his work okay with him. he admittedly knew what he was doing when he called someone else a "f*gg*t". he took the risk. he paid dearly. he is as much to blame for wrong-doing as the violent manager. he used terminology that other straight men use to offend enemies when initiating a physical battle. perez is smart enough to know this. i'd be surprised if he didn't catch a lot of flack from the gay community for his choice of words.

i do hope that perez takes a long, hard look at himself and that this incident shakes his world. in his "my statement" he was obviously scared and shaken. it's disheartening that he has gone back to work today, posting in the same mean-spirited style that he has become famous for.

in the end, people are going to remember perez as that guy who wrote of bunch of vile, nasty things about other people, out of jealousy. they are not going to remember him for any meaningful contributions to society or his fellow man. that is, of course, unless he changes his course of action and uses his "power" and intellect toward good. how about using his platform to become an advocate for social causes?? he sort of does already with certain issues.

as he shamed will.i.am for lying and outright scolded him by saying that god looking down upon him most unfavorably, perez should take a good look at himself first before putting himself up on that self-righteous pedestal and saying those things to others.

in sum, if will.i.am and company hadn't have built a shrine to the "importance" of perez's words, maybe they would have walked away. feeling powerless they resorted to violence. yay ego. perez feels powerless, that's why he does what he does. bullies are violent perpetrators against humanity, in any form, any way you dice it. it's a sad situation all around.

let's tear down that shrine. everything is arbitrary in life anyway.

Dita von Teese takes her clothes off for a living, and is constantly praised by Perez, she is one of his chosen few who goes unscathed. I wonder how willing to "defend to the death" if he called her a dirty fake whore who gets paid to take her clothes off  and a disgusting human being for having been married to marily Manson. It's easy to support freedom of speech when it's all in your favor.

oh JaneMargaret.......sorry but i had to reply...

###The comments on here are despicable and display many of your disturbing natures.###

Actually what I read here seems to be intelligent debate...would you prefer the typical foraging in the mire as encouraged and indulged by Mr Lavendeira, such as his numerous comments over tina chen, and the echoes from his partisans?

###You all are pathetic ENABLERS, Hilton may be a douche "the worlds biggest douche" as he has claimed, but he got punched! Violence isn't explainable.  VIOLENCE IS NEVER TO BE EXCUSED.  Didn't your mothers ever teach you this? ###

you seem to be able to not understand the concept and origins of violence. go to Merriam websters definition and then tell me that Mr Lavendeira doesn’t fulfil criteria 1b to 4 on a daily basis. the supposed ‘punch’ (and i’ve seen the TMZ video..which doesn’t tally with Mr L’s account too much) and I wonder out of the years of misery he has created for many hundreds if not thousands of people...for the people who are teased in playgrounds, for the kids who will now be using the word f**got  in the playground....(that it is an insult....from him, beggars belief)...the knock cannot equate to the violence he has used habitually for years from his keyboard...

###As Dita Von Teese recently tweeted "I may not agree with what you say but I will defend to the death your right to say it."###

If we could say anything, we would not have decency and libel laws. It’s an insult to the originator of this phrase to associate Lavandeira’s inanities and hate-mongering (and therein their effect on the impressionable and vulnerable) with more pressing issues of moral and political merit. I despair at your equation.

###Criticism is part of the biz & it hurts. But NO HITTING" For all of those hoping to negate what Ms. Dailey wrote with her grammatical errors,###

you should see the accusations Mr Lavendeira and his cohorts level on his blog...blue, profane and downright nasty...it makes the ‘grammatical ‘teasing seem pale...

###here's news for you... ###

I suspect not

###her main message is clear.  I hope one day you will realize what Kate says in this article is true. "The logic that it falls on the victim to prevent irrational actions of the assailant is really outdated and really, really dangerous."###

I think we should not take Mario lavendeira’s word at the moment as gospel. As a journalist, ‘kate’ seems to simplify a complex notion, and apply it to an even more complex and as yet uninvestigated incident....as dangerous as Mario’s daily tightrope walk of bullying profanities....

###FYI the people she wrote about, the people who blame the victim... yeah she probably didn't realize this when she was writing it, but apparently their you. Congratulations mom must be so proud.##

All i can say is my mother would be heartbroken if i was the author of the Perez Hilton blog.

Kate Dailey, next time blog about DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AGAINST MEN and MISANDRIC VIOLENCE TOWARDS MEN.

Right links.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Domestic_violence#Violence_against_men

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Domestic_violence#Sex_and_gender

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Domestic_violence#Gender_differences

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Al_green#Return_to_Faith

Please read these wikipedia articles and sources for them.

http://en.wikipedia.org/Wiki/Domestic_violence#Violence_against_men

Sources 16, 33-37

http://en.wikipedia.org/Wiki/Domestic_violence#Sex_and_gender

http://en.wikipedia.org/Wiki/Domestic_violence#Gender_differences

Sources 16, 88-103

http://en.wikipedia.org/Wiki/Al_green#Return_to_Faith

Sources 6-8

This is third time I try to post this message, but I have to be sure, that everyone has to know about women who do misandric and domestic violence against men. Men are also victims of domestic violence and Kate Dailey stands for wrong stereotype.that only women are victims of violence. No, men are also victims of violence and violent women.

@JaneMargret: So are you saying that verbal abuse is okay?  Because it's not and that is something Mr. Lavandeira engages in daily.  His victims are "asking for it" because they are celebrities (in most cases) so I guess he gets a pass and they just need to "get over it".

And re your second to last sentence: it's "they're", not "their". ;-)

Oh please.  Mario didn't get anything more than he deserved.  Looking at the Video, he's not cut, bruised, messed up or in any other condition that would warrant a 12 minute whine fest.  He needs to take responsibility for his actions, and you need to acknowledge that racial slurs of any kind should be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law.  It's consider HATE and he's lucky that a hit to the head was the only thing he got.  One of these days, his stupid, immature, innane and sophmoric actions will get him seriously injured.  HE ALSO HAS NO IDEA WHO HIT HIM GIVEN THAT IT CAME FROM BEHIND!!!!!!  Mario needs to man up and grow a set.

I wonder how much Perez paid this crackhead to spew this "Poor Perez" crap. For the record, NO ONE's buying it.

Please read these wikipedia articles and sources for them.

http://en.wikipedia.org/Wiki/Domestic_violence#Violence_against_men

Sources 16, 33-37

http://en.wikipedia.org/Wiki/Domestic_violence#Sex_and_gender

http://en.wikipedia.org/Wiki/Domestic_violence#Gender_differences

Sources 16, 88-103

http://en.wikipedia.org/Wiki/Al_green#Return_to_Faith

Sources 6-8

Please read these wikipedia articles and sources for them.

http://en.wikipedia.org/Wiki/Domestic_violence#Violence_against_men

Sources 16, 33-37

http://en.wikipedia.org/Wiki/Domestic_violence#Sex_and_gender

http://en.wikipedia.org/Wiki/Domestic_violence#Gender_differences

Sources 16, 88-103

http://en.wikipedia.org/Wiki/Al_green#Return_to_Faith

Sources 6-8

By the statements I've read here....pretty much no one agrees with the author of this article....probably because she's completely off the mark. I mean give me a break....Perez Hilton wash punched in the face.  Guess what? I don't care....at all.....not one bit.  And you want to know why? Because I can only spend my time and energy on a finite number of issues, and this issue does not qualify. I've already spent to much time on it.....Kate Dailey is wrong....moving on.

This upsets me.  Perez was wrong on so many levels.  He is a journalistic Nazi.  He gets off on trying to make people look bad.  See when he was a small boy – he was teased and left out of things by the popular click.  Now he thinks it time to get back at all those clicks that excluded him.  I don’t agree with him getting punched.  Violence is not good at all.  But KARMA is a B****.  He can dish it out but can take it.  The argument got elevated when Perez was at a loss of words to respond to WillIAM.  So what did he do?  Called him hit below the belt.  He wants support and sympathy from his fames… he needs to be contrite and apologize for throwing out a slur to WillIAM  

Stop trying to compare domestic violence against women to what happened to Perez.  This is nothing like getting bet by your husband or your boyfriend because he snapped.  Perez asked to punched maybe he will keep his big mouth shut

The comments on here are despicable and display many of your disturbing natures.You all are pathetic ENABLERS, Hilton may be a douche "the worlds biggest douche" as he has claimed, but he got punched! Violence isn't explainable.  VIOLENCE IS NEVER TO BE EXCUSED.  Didn't your mothers ever teach you this?  As Dita Von Teese recently tweeted "I may not agree with what you say but I will defend to the death your right to say it."Criticism is part of the biz & it hurts.But NO HITTING" For all of those hoping to negate what Ms. Dailey wrote with her grammatical errors, here's news for you... her main message is clear.  I hope one day you will realize what Kate says in this article is true. "The logic that it falls on the victim to prevent irrational actions of the assailant is really outdated and really, really dangerous." FYI the people she wrote about, the people who blame the victim... yeah she probably didn't realize this when she was writing it, but apparently their you. Congratulations mom must be so proud.

Please refrain from using the "R-Word"  http://www.r-word.org/  Please "Spread the Word to End the Word"

Thank you in advance.

To:  aebacc123 "God this article is retarded."

thanks for your article. glad to see i'm not the only one who doesn't approve of someone getting physically assaulted because they are obnoxious.  perez hilton has an extremely lame blog (drawing genitals and infantile insults on pictures of people more famous than yourself is not wit) and a extremely loud mouth to go with it.  neither of things things excuses hitting him, nor does the the fact he's male excuse belittling him because he it upset about it.  the women doing this are particularly distasteful since i doubt they'd feel the same if someone punched one of the similarly obnoxious female bloggers in the face.  which isn't to say the guys who excuse it are much better.  you'd think in the 21st century more men would have evolved from being hairless chimpanzees, but obviously not.

Dear Ms. Dailey,

If I may direct a few comments/questions to you, point by point.

First, let's address your comments concerning:

"Many victims of violence—and especially domestic violence—will tell you that the slaps, punches, and shoves perpetrated upon them didn't happen when they were just sitting their minding their own business."

Who exactly did you speak with?  

From my sons, mother, family dog and I experience, it is exactly what took place.  Not only punches (body, eye, face), but I myself had a knife to my throat or a gun to my head because I did not clean fast enough or cook his dinner fast enough. Or how about when he shoved me into the street to run over me with the family vehicle? Scared for my life several times, because things did not go the way he wanted it.  He would also grab the boys by their arms dangling them into the air walking down the hallway, then throwing each into the wall in their bedroom just because or shoving my mom to the ground after her knee surgery trying to get to me. Throwing the dog hard into the ground.

Again, please clarify...who did you speak with for your facts?

Next, let's address: "The weirdest of all this victim-blaming comes from musician John Mayer, who has also taken to Twitter to express his disgust with Hilton's handling of the situation."  

As John Mayer should express his comments, after all Perez Hilton enjoys each insult he throws out there directed at John Mayer and among other people in the "limelight." For Perez Hilton to try and justify his rants of Verbal/Mental Abuse for the past five years is repulsive.  He is an abuser in all aspects; he throws belittling, derogatory remarks daily at his chosen target for the moment with accompanying photographs/scribbling comments at times.  It is not funny in any way shape or form.

Perez Hilton gets it; he just doesn’t want to admit it to his admirers his website is entirely embracing abuse. His attorney needs to look at the big picture before any lawsuit is filed.

In ending, a suggestion, maybe thinking it all out first and/or researching true facts before publishing this article would have been a better path.

In your article, you wrote "you can't demand that people earn basic human rights with kindness points."  I ask, why not?  Why should Perez get to live free from the consequences of his actions?  He publicly humiliates hundreds of people on a website viewed by millions every day.  Why is causing emotional pain acceptable, while physical violence is so taboo and horrible?  Because it's more visible?  When you embarrass and humiliate people unprovoked every day like Perez does, you don't get the luxury of choosing how others respond (i.e. having your website or your fortune taken away vs. getting smacked in the face).  Sure there are laws against assault, and in theory it all sounds nice and flowery to say that "violence isn't the answer."  But in reality, words can cause as much emotional damage and pain as fists and sometimes the victim IS to blame.  In this particular situation, what Perez said may not have warranted fists, but Will.I.Am's manager gave him what was coming to him for years and for thousands of offenses.  I do not feel sorry for Perez Hilton and if suing him won't get through to him, then maybe fists will.

God this article is retarded. the guy who hit perez should be honored.

Because english is foreign language to me, then it's possible, that my comment  does not have all thoughts and you may not understand, what I say.

Why don't you talk about violence, when women and wifes attack, rape and punch men and husbands. Do you tolerate MISANDRIC VIOLENCE? There's a  lot of cases, when women punch and does PHYSICAL MISANDRIC VIOLENCE

"Dude, I get it. I GET IT. But it's not f**king funny to me. Karma would be me losing my site and going bankrupt or what have u. Karma is NOT getting punched in the face!"

See that the funny thing about karma, YOU don't get to decide what you have coming to you, because, obviously, karma WAS getting punched in the face. Hopefully, the losing your site and going broke will follow.

I'm sick of people defending Perez Hilton, a VIOLENT person, because his form of violence didn't leave an obvious mark on another persons body.

You need to take a long hard look at defending one type of violence over another, because you are essentially saying to all the children who'd parents emotionally abuse them that they just need to suck it up and deal and that their parents have a right to do it since it doesn't make a mark.

Words hurt. Go to any reputable therapist and they will tell you that emotional abuse is the same as physical abuse. It's the same. You can't defend one and vilify the other.

If you are going to take the stance that abuse and violence are wrong, then condemn ALL OF IT. Perez does not deserve support in this. He should suffer the same consequences as the person he was fighting with.

No one is saying ANYTHING is right or ok in this situation. The whole thing is wrong, but this unbalanced persecution of the Will's manager is making one kind of violence ok, and that is WRONG.

Kate - so I take it that you feel mental abuse is less than physical abuse.  Disagree with you.  Perez makes his living stating his "opinion" about every man, woman, & CHILD.  He uses his visibility as a shield and makes money by being mean, hateful and not even funny.  Comparing this is domestic violence is OBSURD!  He pushes buttons hard & then when dealing with the upset he responded with verbal abuse (name calling!)  

I've gone & read John Mayer's twitter comments and can't even agree with you there.  I take John to be telling Perez that he will introduce him to Krav Maga.  If Perez wants to push people's buttons this will help him control the upset individual &/or last resort defend himself.

While no one should be hit, it's not a perfect world.  Push someone hard enough, you will get a response.  Hopefully that person has control & doesn't resort to violence.  Let's be real here though. I've gotten hurt worse shaving my legs.  Perez just publicized it more & is getting articles written.  This is a bar fight - with a whiny loser.

Hopefully, this whole incident is another nail in the coffin of Perez's website. Not only are we going to staunchly resist his (and other's) efforts to make himself the leader of the gay civil rights movement, but we are also rejecting his pathetic attempts to make himself the leader of the movement against violence. you lose.

Perez wasn't assaulted. Violence is never the answer, yes yes...but sometimes a punch in the face/black eye is well-deserved. It's a scarlet letter. It's as old school as behind the bleacher showdowns. It's a fact of life, well, at least for those who have it coming.

If I were to see a guy walking down the street with a black eye, I would automatically assume "douchebag." Why? Because when people are punched in the face, it's usually due to a war of words that escalates into a fight. Predictable, seen it a thousand times. We all know people who (and I feel like a 13 yr. old girl when I say this) run their mouth. They talk the talk because they can. Right to free speech. Can't touch me, that's assault, brotha.

Whatever.

Bullying or talking down is a tactic used by the weak. Bullies like Perez Hilton, who start a war of words, online assaults, cyber-scandal...bullies like that? They're physically weak, mentally weak, or emotionally weak. Calling names, he said/she said, mean words, expose...it's simply the ammo he has, and he uses it daily for his own agenda i.e., $$$. What's worse is using hate speech, and, for some reason, Perez did just that. I'm not surprised, but greatly disappointed. When you use hate speech against someone, you're automatically in the wrong. There's no excuse, no way out. Rightfully, hate speech almost always invokes an emotional reaction...which is exactly what a bully wants. A reaction.

Sometimes the victims (and yes, the counterpart of this situation is a victim, of some sort) must peruse the cliche ultimatum of fight or flight. Both are reactions. If it were me, I would choose fight. While I've never been in an actual fight with anyone, I could see myself in a situation where, if I had to choose between the two, I would choose fight. Stand up for yourself.

This is what happened between Perez and BEP. Perez is a bully. All he does is "talk." Attack, verbally assault, harass, whatever you want to call it. That's the name of his game: talking the talk. We all know that Perez is vicious, unapologetic, unintelligent, and completely immature. While he touts a "I would never hit anyone" morale, he apparently has no qualm with defamation, verbal abuse, exploitation, and public humiliation. Perez calls people fat, ugly, retarded, slutty, balding, ***, idiot...he pokes fun at their family members, even calling their children ugly. He's the first one to expose any secret or private information you might have, and is certainly the last one to apologize for any of it.

Gotta love him for it? No, you don't. At all...

He was punched in the face for having called Will.I.am a "***" and he received exactly what he deserved: a nice, direct wallop. Right to the eye. Congrats to whomever threw it, too. Next time, though-harder. Knock him out.

Maybe then he'll stop attacking others?

Sometimes, you deserve to be hit in the face. Sometimes it's exactly what you need. Perez, you're a man, aren't you? Capable of defending yourself? If you want to be mean and nasty to others, expect others to be mean and nasty to you. Punishment isn't always going to come in the form of a put down or harsh criticism. Sometimes it's going to be a fist. And I bet a LOT of people have no problem with that. Sometimes a black eye is the answer.

Yes, we should be protected from harm and malice by the hands of others. BUT, there is a difference here. In life, their is consequence. Perez persecutes and belittles individuals on a routine, daily basis. He has verbally assaulted people for 5 years now, as he so proudly proclaims. One punch in the face? One black eye? That's it? That's all he's received after all of his direct verbal assaults onto others?

You should have received two black eyes. Maybe even a broken nose. Sometimes, you have it coming. This is not the same as a drive-by shooting, this is not lethal assault, God is not looking down at the BEP saying "shame on you, Will.I.am!"

He's probably saying, "Hells to the yeah."

Perez wraps things up in his video by calling Will.I.am a "f***ing motherf***er" and Fergie a "fugly bitch."

The maturity of this entire situation is overwhelming.

This article is definitely misguided. I in no way believe Perez is a "victim". He was an active participant in an argument that continued to escalate. At any time he could have shut his mouth and walked off.

I do not believe that Perez should have been struck, but in the heat of the moment, things usually get out of hand. Perez' writings are filling with hate and negativity. His writings cause conflict and his actions do nothing to calm matters when he is confronted. Perez is reaping what he sowed. Instead of crying on camera and calling people names, Perez might be better served by either keeping his mouth shut or extending an olive branch to Fergie and The Black Eyed Peas. Right now he acting like a spoiled 8 year old and embarrassing himself.

Perez should learn from this incident, but I doubt he will. If you instigate conflict, be prepared for what comes. Nothing good will come of it. If Perez keeps running his mouth, I foresee more black eyes in his future.

Mario Lavandeira states categorically in his 'statement' blog that 'violence is never the answer'

If this statement were not so ironic, it would be just sad, in the fullest sense of the word.  I don't buy the 'alter ego' excuse)...he takes the cheques on behalf of Perez Hilton....therefore he must he take responsibility for all that the latter utters.

To castigate children for their appearance (see posts on Britney spears children,or lourdes, daughter of Madonna, or alexa joel, or kristen stewart....to berate them as ugly, in need of surgery or cosmetic procedures, he encourages a society to bully their way in and out of arguments, not only is this acceptable as a sport,but further than this, a legitimite social past-time.

If any journalist feels like a challenge, i urge them to reseach the victimisation of Chris(tina) Chen, a minor with learning difficulties, who woke up one day to find Mario Lavendeira had posted up her singing videos he found on you tube, filing it under 'if you are easily offended', and thereby opened up a torrent of like abuse from his loyal fans..such as kill the bi*ch, or slap the retard....rather than back down when challenged about the morality of his posts, he then parodied her in what can only be described as the most sickening online bullying in the public domain....

please Ms Dailey....when you correspond about these matters, look at sections 1b, 2, 3a, 3b and 4 of the definition below.....and then write an informed piece....

vi·o·lence

\ˈvī-lən(t)s, ˈvī-ə-\

Function:

noun

Date:

14th century

1 a: exertion of physical force so as to injure or abuse (as in warfare effecting illegal entry into a house)

1 b: an instance of violent treatment or procedure

2: injury by or as if by distortion, infringement, or profanation : outrage

3 a: intense, turbulent, or furious and often destructive action or force

3 b: vehement feeling or expression : fervor ; also : an instance of such action or feeling c: a clashing or jarring quality : discordance4: undue alteration (as of wording or sense in editing a text)

Kate Daley,... sigh ...   This is the biggest waste of space in Newsweek history I think.  You're comparing Perez hilton getting his ass beat for calling someone a *** to women getting assaulted.  You're basically comparing what happebned to  a woman's rape  when in fact he just got his ass beat for being obnoxious. It's not going to be the only time it's going to happen either.  If you want to write about the state of the world you should write about why people care about Perez getting beat rather than paying attention to the news concerning Iran.  That's probably more worthwhile.  

Your salient points are often obscured by your grammatical and/or typographical errors. Some of your readers have already commented on them; I wanted to remind you and your editor/s that the past tense of the verb "(to) lead" is "led." The word "lead" - pronounced "led" as used here - refers to "a bluish-white soft malleable ductile plastic but inelastic heavy metallic element found mostly in combination and used especially in pipes, cable sheaths, batteries, solder, and shields against radioactivity" (www.m-w.com).

Whatever happened to the day when two men p***ed each other off, duked out their differences, then went about life?  The guy that punched Hilton wasn't trying to murder him or permanently disfigure him, it was just an honest-to-goodness settling of the score between 2 men.  Perez needs to take his licks like a man, quit the whining, and recognize that every once in a while his sharp tongue (or fingertips, what-have-you) is gonna catch up with him and he's going to rub the wrong person the wrong way and get slugged.  Occupational hazard.

Hasn't he ever heard the saying "Don't let your mouth write checks your a** can't cash?"  Slap some steak on that shiner, Big Guy, and move on.

FROM THE ARTICLE:

"...didn't happen when they were just sitting THEIR minding their own business."

SHOULD READ;

"...didn't happen when they were just sitting THERE minding their own business."

Assault is a crime in Canada, but uttering a homophobic slur is a felony hate crime in Canada. After GLAAD asked him to apologize for using hateful language, he responded that GLADD should apologize to HIM. Perez is a sociopath not a victim, and should be charged for the crime he committed as well.

Ms. Dailey,

This article you wrote is a joke.  Just as Perez Hilton is a joke.  Normally, I wouldn't waste my time responding to nonsense such as your article, but I would like to stress emphatically that Perez got what he truly deserves.  It's people like you who give idiots like Perez the false impression that they have the divine right to post rude and absurd garbage that he does and not feel the ramifications from them.  Perez himself has no talent whatsoever, yet he feels he can deem other people who do have the talent and have worked hard by posting nasty and vile things on his blog about them.  I'm willing to bet that if he posted one of your pictures on his blog with drool or other vulgar drawings and comments about you, this ridiculous blog defending this idiot would not have been written.  I also despise the celebrities who choose to befriend this worthless piece of crap that is Perez just for publicity purposes (i.e. Katy Perry, Miley Cyrus, Ashley Tisdale...).  It's people like them who have given him the power to think he can behave in such a disgusting manner and get away with it for as long as he has, and that is dangerous.  Personally, I'm glad this incident happened because hopefully, it will serve as a wake-up call not only for this turd to realize he is a joke and that his 15 minutes may be up very soon, but also for those people who are feeding the same turd to hopefully be better judges of character and act with integrity rather than ignorance.  It's just as much the fault of these ignorant supporters who allow this jerk Perez to get away with what he has, and hopefully these same people will wise up.  Now, I'm normally not a John Mayer fan, but in this situation, I definitely agree and support his arguement, as I'm sure an abundant number of other people do.  Again, I do not apologize for strongly DISAGREEING with your blog regarding this joke that is Perez Hilton!  As I said, looks like your 15 minutes are up, Perez!!!!

@uniluni54 I also work with children who have been abused. It is heartbreaking to see the effects of verbal abuse on a developing child...one more reason I do not support Mr. Lavandeira or his so-called chosen profession.

Yes violence isn't the answer..but Perez Hilton is a hypocrite..he has condoned violence on his web blog when it has suited him..just look at the story when Jesse Metcalfe got into a fight...Perez's biased opinion about this actor..shows..Perez is not biased..if he likes you..he name drops..if he hates you..he bad mouths you..

When Jesse Metcalfe was in a violent altercation, then he wished he was there in person to see it..well Perez..the world is watching you now..and I'm sure alot of people say you had it coming..

You are being a drama queen to the fullest.

Perez Hilton has done worse things to people then being hit..Miley Cyrus is 16..he has been on her case for years now..and it verges on Child Pornography some of the stuff he says about her.

Perez you can dish it out..but you can't take it..Just ask Jesse Metcalfe...

Your a hypocrite to the fullest..just ask GLAAD..

and yes you should apologize..just like Violence isn't the answer...neither is attacking a community to make them feel they are lesser..SHAME ON YOU..YOU SHOULD KNOW BETTER

This article is utterly ridiculous. Kate you are just writing non-sence.

I don't think you understand the situation.  Did you have a deadline and needed something to write about?

You have seriously mischaracterized John Mayer's twitters.  All you have demonstrated here is that you're out of touch.  Of COURSE violence is never the answer.  If you were familiar with Perez Hilton's blog, you would know that he is a man who intersperses some genuinely funny/creative/insightful posts with incredible cruelty and toxicity and anger.  He was probably bullied himself at some point, but now HE is a bully.  No one with any visibility or clout dares challenge him for fear of subjecting themselves to the most hateful vitriol.  You seem to think this situation is one-dimensional.  It's not.  The internet's reaction to Mario Lavandeira's situation is a long pent-up response to this powerful-yet-irrational man.

Perhaps you would be willing to write a future post about Perez's cruelty?  And possibly make yourself into a target?  Are you cool with sexually explicit doodles being drawn over photos of yourself?  Good luck with that!  Seriously, your post was extremely misguided.

I am losing the point here..Perez didn't get hit because he is gay..he got his because he verbally insulted  someone. Yes violence  is not an answer but if someone is getting in your face and calling you names it bound to stir some beef. He basically provoked him. Honestly how many guys get in a fight every single day..over things..if they all pressed charges there would be hardly any men left out there. Oh ya and why exactly is Perez being compared to a women? It's one thing to abuse a woman and it's totally different thing to punch a guy in the face..even if that guy happened to be gay.

Restraint? Clearly you did not do your homework before writing this otherwise well-written article. http://perezhilton.com/tv/index.php?ptvid=0cd5e5f27f759

I am really happy that all the comments completely disagree with this ridiculous article. Physical violence is never the answer, however I was plagued by verbal violence as a child and it had a devastating effect on me, and you don't even mention the fact that Perez Hilton is verbally abusing celebrities on his site every day. Some people take this stuff to heart, just as some people take a punch in the face to heart. In domestic abuse cases verbal abuse on the victims part is usually never the cause of the violence. This was a really frustrating article and it made me very sad, how did you get a job at Newsweek? And are you actually Perez Hilton? You should read Roger Ebert's blog, he says poignant intelligent things that relate to the real world, try to be more like him.

I believe that Perez is pushing this issue for publicity.  I think it should be dropped.  Perez was an inch from Will.I.Am's face screaming obscenities, when you invade someones personal space like that in a packed area where there's barely room to move, you deserve to get hit.  I believe you are trivializing domestic violence. And seriously, twittering and asking people to tie up 911 instead of just calling them yourself is proof Perez was trying to get publicity - well he got it and I can't believe newsweek is wasting there time on it.

Kate, you are a blithering idiot.

For starters, if you keep antagonizing a pit bull and it bites you, is it wrong?  Yes, but it should be expected.

Secondly, this man who supposedly fights for gay rights (which any sane person knew wasn't true considering the callous way he outed celebrities for profit and self-gain) used a GAY SLUR to antagonize this man.  Therefore, I would call the gay community and Will.I.AM victims.  Therefore, by your own argument, you are excusing the behavior of the perpetrator.  

This article is insipid, pointless and basically justifies the behavior of someone who quite honestly has been BEGGING for it for years.

Restraint and maturity?  Whatever prescription you're on please pass its name on to my doctor cause that's some good stuff.  Perez's act is typical of the cowardly running dog: attack attack attack and when somebody bites back put on a sanctimonious face.  Did you catch this cat's act when he faux dropped a "See You Next Tuesday" on Carrie Prejean.  My only regret is the Black Eyed Peas got hooked by this tool and didn't fight fire with fire.  Namely, video tape the clown's act and put it on YouTube.

It's about time. He should expect that kind of violence everyday for what he posts on his site. Next he'll say that he's protected by the first amendment so he can say whatever he wants. Well, while that may be true, you will incur consequences. Learn it, live it, love it.

Anyone who thinks John Mayer is "unbearable talentwise" doesn't know jack about music. John Mayer is an outrageously talented guitarist who knows what's going to make him money -- and it's not necessarily getting up and showing off his chops. Most people today are completely in the dark when it comes to what real "talent" is, and so he has to write *** like "Your Body Is A Wonderland" to get ahead. He's smart.

Perez Hilton? He lives on hate. He is flushing society down the toilet, and shame on anyone who thinks people don't deserve to be punched sometimes. Perez Hilton got what was coming to him. You can't compare him to Matthew Shepherd... Hilton wasn't brutally murdered. You can't compare him to Rihanna... he's not in a relationship with his "attacker." He was in somebody's personal space, spewing insults and nonsense, and he was promptly shut up.

The idea that people shouldn't be hit is absolutely outrageous. Why have we become so special in the last fifteen + years? It seems the more technology we acquire, the more entitled we feel. "I don't DESERVE this, I don't NEED this." Perez is totally wrapped up in himself, and so is anyone else who thinks that they can say anything they want without consequence. Sometimes people get hit when they talk out of line. He was out of line... and then he was put back in.

Get over it. He's not special. He's not smart. He got lucky. There are a thousand other blogs who do the same thing he does -- funnier, better blogs with far better spelling and grammar, mind you, and HE'S famous? He lucked out. Pretty soon, hopefully, he'll be out of the loop.

Guess what Perez, words HURT. He's blogged about kids killing themselves because of bullying. Most of the time, it's probably the words that are hurting the kids. You're a grown man and you STILL talk a lot of sh*t. Perez is a worthless hypocritical piece of sh*t that just needs to disappear.

I cannot believe that you would compare what happened to Perez to domestic violence. That is adding insult to injury to all domestic violence victims. Perez Hilton is hardly a victim in this case. His words are equally violent albeit not physical.

"Tawdry, silly, and totally unimportant, especially when people are dying in Iran over the fight for democracy."

RIGHT. So write an article for Newsweek about it.

No, wrong. Some people DO deserve to be punched. It is both simple, effective, and damn near impossible to misunderstand. Boo-hoo, call it assault if you will. I call it getting a smack for talking smack. And don't forget that Perez H. is a very big robust individual. He's no dainty little thing. He's also a vile bottom feeder who got what he deserved. Thank you Mr. Black Eyed Peas Manager.

Also, Perez is now asking GLAAD to apologize to *him*?? This guy just doesn't get it. This is why it's dangerous to let idiots like Perez stand up on an electronic pedestal and shape so many important discussions, and equally dangerous to assign sympathy and understanding to someone who clearly wants to play by the rules of nobody but himself.

Please, those of you reading this blog post who are not familiar with Perez's "work": spend a minute or two perusing his site. "Maturity" is not the accurate word to be using in descriptions of this man. Media: STOP STOP STOP promoting him and his ideas!

You Kate Dailey, are a full-blown idiot. If you believe you, or anyone else will ever live in a world where a punch is not thrown, you are simply living in one big delusion. Perez Hilton has a fanbase of 15 year old emo girls. He teaches them daily to HATE for absolutely no reason other than the way someone looks, speaks, or dresses. He makes pedophilic comments on his site, he calls children slu*ts. Maybe you cannot comprehend the situation, maybe you don't have children, but these are only some of the reasons why the majority of ADULTS around the world cheered when he got punched. That along with his obvious gay slur, which he tried so hard to justify in his video rant. Perez Hilton is truly what is wrong with this world. He is famous for nothing other than typing on a computer and openly hating people, all while screaming loudly that he is so against H8.

You try to belittle John Mayer for his comments regarding the situation here. I happen to think John Mayer is about unbearable, both talent-wise and just seeing his chat on Twitter, but he said NOTHING wrong here. You tried to drag him in this and make some sort of example of him. You are an absolute fool.

Where is the outrage about Perez repeatedly referring to Miley Cyrus, a CHILD, as a sl*t? Where is the outrage about him making comments such as "take it all off!" when he published pictures showing a nearly naked child on his website, because he said he thought they were "hot"? In case you haven't noticed lately, a LOT of celebrities are finally speaking out about their intolerance for Perez, and whether you happen to think he deserved a punch in the face or not, you are totally unrealistic if you thought Perez could continue to spew the filth and hate that he does without someone eventually taking a shot.

Pull your head out of rear end and take a look at the real world Ms. Dailey. Maybe you'll also be able to figure out why there are wars, genocide, terrorist acts, and disasters going on in this world and your career at the moment requires you to "report" about Perez Hilton..

I agree with Kate, violence is never the answer. Perez Hilton should never have been physically attacked, but there's something lacking in this article. Perez was attacked, and in this instance he is the victim, i just don't understand why there are no articles about all of Perez's victims. Where's that article, where everyone is up in arms because Perez Hilton really hurts these people that he says such terrible things about? Verbal abuse may not show on the outside, but it still hurts.

and to C.Elle who said "words can be ignored but bruises can't." I work in the domestic violence field. You can't ignore bruises, but they do go away. Words never do. People remember the hurtful things that they've heard from others their whole lives. It's easy to tell someone to ignore words, but do we really do it? No. We keep those hurtful things that people say with us always and they become our insecurities.

It's hard to get past mean things people say. And Perez is really mean.  Violence is never the answer right? Well neither is verbal bullying.  Make sure that when you are condemning the B.I.P's or their manager, that you are also condemning Perez for all of the verbal abuse that he's caused over the years.

As far as I understand it, Perez was in the club with one other person, a fairly small woman, Lady Gaga, Will.I.Am was there with his band, minders and manager. He got in Perez' face and tried to elicit an undertaking that Perez would not write about Will's band on his blog - here we have obvious intimidation of Perez and first he tried to keep it down saying "I'll try" but when that was not accepted and he was still being overwhelmed he reacted in a way that many of us would, with outrage and anger at the injustice of Will trying to make him promise something through intimidation. He called him fa**** because he probably suspects that Will is homophobic and that would be the worst insult to him - bizarre as Perez is gay himself, but I can totally see where he's coming from. Then someone else comes at him, from behind and punches him several times. The whole Will entourage were also staying in the same hotel so were coming back to where he was spending the night, if he didn't get control of the situation who knows where it may have ended. He was right to call the police, which he did before he Twittered, which he did cos they weren't coming. Works all ways, violence in Iran, violence in Toronto, He has as much right to Twitter for help as anyone else.

Ideally, we would live in a world without violence. Unfortunately, for both men and women, this is not the case.

Violence against women, while unfortunately common, recevies resounding social disapproval. However, violence between men is both common and accepted.  Though Perez is a homosexual, he is still a man, and men are held to a different standard. I dont believe he was assaulted for being gay. He was assaulted for running his mouth to some one he shouldnt have. Every man, gay or straight, should know that when you start talking mess, especially to some one with a bodyguard, you run the risk of getting hit. Im not saying it's right. Im not saying he deserved it. But he should have seen it coming.

It is hateful and wrong to pick on someone for being gay, female, or just plain weak. But Perez was not "wearing a short skirt." He was not Matthew Shepard or Rihanna in this situation. He was just a man, who happens to be gay, who got punched in the face. Trust me. It happens everyday in this violent country of ours.

Maturity and restraint...are you serious??? Did you see the video blog Perez posted bragging about how he used an atrocious gay slur just to antagonize someone, slandered Will.i.am by claiming that he, and not the manager, hit him, and then called Fergie a "fugly b*tch"? Maybe you should investigate a little more before you write an article. Yes, violence is wrong, but so is verbal abuse and assault which Perez seems to think is his right. Polo should face charges on assault but who is going to hold Perez accountable for the disgusting comments he routinely makes about UNDERAGE actors and singers? Didn't Letterman just get chastised for the same thing? I am not disputing the fact that striking someone is wrong, but like it or not, if you go out or your way to antagonize someone, like Perez admitted he did, you cannot expect reprecussions. This is not a perfect world no matter how much we'd like it to be.

As a lesbian I am disgusted with Perez Hilton's verbal assault on a non-gay.   I do not condone physical violence but I definitely do not condone verbal abuse.  One is not worse than the other.  Perez Hilton crucified Miss California for her stance on gay marriage rights then turned around and screamed gay slurs at someone.   Perez Hilton constantly violates the rights of individuals by outing them before they are ready to come out.  That is not okay.  Perez Hilton is no more a victim in this situation than Sarah Ferguson or Will.I.Am.   GLAAD has asked Perez for an apology and Perez has asked GLAAD to apologize to HIM!   Such hypocrisy!  It is sickening and Perez is an embarassment to the gay community.  This is clearly a case of the pot calling the kettle black.  Perez needs to practice what he preaches and apologize to Gays and Lesbians everywhere for using the words he used.   He also needs to watch his alcohol intake or invest in anger management therapy.  

You're kidding right? For sure, violence is wrong...unless, I believe, it's self-defense. Perez threw the verbal equivilent of the first punch. And what a demeaning, degrading, vile punch it was. If he was straight and uttered that vitriol, or if he was Caucasian and said the N word, every human rights advocacy group would be crying foul (and I guarantee you wouldn't have written an article in that person's defense). To say that Perez was merely being annoying misses the point. Were Rush and Newt just being annoying when they labeled Judge Sotomayor a racist? Was Isiah Washington just being annoying when he called T.R. Knight a F****T? No, I believe he was fired. To go further and compare this to the plight of abused women is offensive and insulting to anyone who has been on the receiving end of racist, homophobic, sexist epitaths. Shame on you and your editors.

No one deserves violence, even perez Hilton. But in this case he does not deserve compassion or sympathy. Why because he himself has made fun of other celebrities that have suffered the same type of misfortune. He will say no to violence only when the violence is directed at him or celebs that he likes. I remember him calling Brandon Davis a *** for not punching him. And saying that he was glad that Lily allen suffered a miscarriage and believe it or not he has said worst things. Oh and try looking up Sharon Osburnes names in his blog you will see he praised her for attacking Megan and dissed Megan for being in the exact SAME situation as him, Perez says things when they are convenient for him and lives in his own world were he believes he can do NO WRONG. Also I wonder how Perez got the link to this article, nice way to suck up Kate. Trying to get your work more mainstream, well it worked.

This article grossly oversimplifies the entire concept of "victim". When a person gets assaulted and robbed while walking drunkenly down a dark alley, he tends to elicit less sympathy than somebody who suffers the same fate while in his own back yard.  Why? Because victim 1 contributed to his suffering by acting recklessly, victim 2 did not.  And this is an important point that that the law (and most sensible people )recognize: contributory negligence  

Perez—by his own admission—talks trash about people for a living. By his own admission, he was trying to provoke his attacker by using a homophobic slur. Does his contributory negligence excuse his attacker? Of course not, but it mitigates it.

And it should.  Placing all “victims” under the same tent distorts the motives of both the attacker and the victim. It also does a disservice to victims who suffered despite acting sensibly, logically and in their own best interests.

Perez got exactly the fight he was itching for—he just got it on terms he was not anticipating.  

By the way people, in no way am I comparing domestic violence to this incident. I'm simply saying that the justifications used by some for the behavior can be the same.

Wow, what a lynch mob mentality some of you have in here. Perez is totally the new "Legend of Billie Jean".

First of all, Perez is a rat. There is no doubt about it. He profits off of the misery of others. Then again, if we didn't bite, he wouldn't have a business or be as prolific as he is.

That does NOT mean that he deserved to be assaulted. What would be more interesting is to see some of these celebrities that he targets actually band together and use their brain to ruin him. Utilize the same tools that he uses to discredit and humiliate people. Post pictures of him during his fat days. Poke around in his past. Circulate the texts he exchanged with that male porn star awhile back (which ARE highly embarassing). Take the fight to him. But fight him without using your fist.

I noticed this same disturbing trend on some of the blogs once Chris Brown was exposed for the woman beater that he is. People (fans of his more specifically) were blaming her because she ripped him a new one verbally and threw his keys out the window (according to reports). She deserved it. That is BS. I agree with Kate, under no circumstances is it ok to assault someone (except self-defense).

Thank you also, Jillian M for your mature response, as I also do respect your thoughts and opinions. I understand your stance, as words can be taken multiple ways. I did not mean it sound that way, and you are right that we should not think that way. Although attacks, in any form, should never happen, despite the ones involved, the situation could have turned out much worse.

I tip my hat to you, in mutual thanks and respect.

Maybe it were I am from and how I was raised, but to respond to a request from one person to another with the abrasive phrase that includes "F-----" in disagreement will get one a fat lip. I have seen many a man beaten for much less. I have issues with your comparisons, it is not that he is an outspoken critic of the homosexual variety and was slugged because of it. It was because he crossed a line in a heated argument. He is not in abusive relationship like Rhianna, He was not in the wrong place at the wrong time with a group of bigots like Sheppard or Zapata. He was a man who shot his mouth off at the wrong time. One can be civil all they want but sometimes, sometimes the ear will not listen to words and actions is all one has left. Hilton is a victim because he made himself one, after the fact, seeing as he had no problem going home on to the webcam and start his rant yet again. To help illustrate the scenario, let say we were debating a topic and in the moment of loss of words, I call you a ,"stupid c---." You then reach across and slap me for it, am I the victim of your assault? No a lot of people will see it as a verbal assault on your integrity and pride, and I would be in the wrong for going for the lowest common demeanor, in other words I earned a fat lip. This would be an entirely different if Hilton was assaulted hours after the conversation and was lynched like Sheppard. We may have a right to free speech, but we also must be prepared for the repercussions and ramifications that are rendered from the words that leave our mouths, for words can be more powerful than feats of strength.

I don't believe that violence is the answer, either, but as a gay woman, I am insulted by your comparison of the violence demonstrated against Perez to the violence demonstrated against women.  NEVER compare oppressions because they do NOT all come from the same place.  You are a woman.  You should know better than to make such an ignorant comment.

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>Did [Hilton]deserve a beating? No: no one does.

Oh, you are wrong on that one.  The idea that nobody should ever have to suffer from negative physical  feedback for unacceptable behavior is, itself, unreasonable an unrealistic.

One punch in the face is hardly a beating.  Hardly even a good start.  Certainly not out of proportion to the behavior Hilton has exhibited in the past, or in this particular case.

Someone who treats others respectfully does not deserve a beating, Hilton is not in that population.  Hilton makes a living by sowing dissent and anger; that he should occasionally reap what he sows is hardly surprising.   I think he might even learn some manners, if this sort of thing became a regular event for him.

Nice try Kate, +1 for the effort.  

However, Mr. Lavandeira stays losing with his daily assaults via his blog.  The sympathy I have for him as a victim is due to his own lack of self-awareness, not because he was grazed on the cheek by someone who had heard enough.  Perhaps this incident will cause a bit of self-reflection on the part of his alter ago, but I doubt it.

The author spoke a lot about Hilton's alleged 'maturity.' I ask you to view his statement video and then back that up. It's obvious you didn't do your homework, aside from maybe listening to an FM radio show this morning.

WOW the article is really biased. Nonetheless, though I do concur that physically assaulting someone is unacceptable, the fact that Perez Hilton has been VERBALLY ABUSING celebrities and stars for years is apropos to hitting someone. I'm sure that a lot of stars also feel the emotional trauma and public humiliation that Perez brings upon them. I support John Mayer in his comment that he really can't "blog the world." I almost felt bad for Perez but he resorted in "twittering" and basically professing in his v-log that he does not need any press because "10 million people" visit his site everyday, proves his pretentious nature. I mean COME ON if you want sympathy and for people to be on your side, you don't rant how popular, allegedly, you see yourself to be. Perez is just a hyped blogger that is on his way to his imminent demise. I CAN'T BELIEVE that he gets paid for bashing human beings. What goes around really does come around. It's about time that he starts paying for the wrongdoings he committed. Furthermore, he is such a humiliating representation of the gay community, seriously. It's only a matter of time before he goes down the drain.

as a reader of your blog and  sometimes Perez's (comic relief) i must say that  he didnt deserve to get punched (no one does), these is really no BUT(in a sense that im condoning violence) in this  comment  but (lol) when  a word like Fa__t or  being a black man Ni__a is use , it does provoke one to a point where  holdoing back is almost impossible , even if you're not gay or black; you know wxactly what those words mean . they are in my case as worse as being punched because those words  kill something in you. maybe im going to far into this.....

but  what he says and does on his website  might one day push someone over because he does really insult human beings and their children (drawing a penis next to miley cyrus????? come on she is a kid)

all i am saying is that this might just be the beggining and that one day someone might in fact hurt him if he doesnt tone it down.

I think that what Kate is trying to get at is a bigger social issue, not who is right or wrong in the Perez/John Mayer/Black Eyed Peas battle. She's trying to say that it's never okay to resort to violence and that no one "deserves" to be hit.

Because really, does anyone truly care about Perez Hilton or John Mayer? They shouldn't.

Take a moment to sit back in your chair and think, "Where would you draw the line for violence?"

It's an on-going war with humanity, and we're all so set in our ways, that is would be difficult to fix. No one deserves to be a victim. Not you, Perez, or that kid that was always picked on outside class.

Yes, Perez has said some hurtful things, but, is that really a reason to inflict pain on someone?

Theyre words. Words can be ignored, bruises cant.

Kate you article is well written apart from this point ---

Some background: gossip blogger Hilton (nee Mario Lavandeira) is alleging that the manager of the Black Eyed Peas, Liborio Molina, assaulted Hilton backstage at the MuchMusic Video awards in Toronto

Incorrect info here... this did not happen "backstage" but rather at an after party - outside a nightclub downtown Toronto.

But you are correct - violence is not the answer. Perez is still a douche.

As a gay man, I think Perez got what he deserved. I'm surprised it hasnt happened sooner. He single handedly went after Carrie Prejean for being anti-gay....then he goes out and uses gay slurs that she didnt even utter. Perez represents what is wrong with this world and with the gay community. Its sad to think that he makes a living from verbally abusing people yet he might sue someone when that person says "enough!" He should be a man and apologize to the gay community and to the Blacked Eyed Peas.

Wait, if anything Perez insulting and verbally yelling at Fergie at the club after the awards should be equated to domestic violence. She went up to him thinking they were friends.  She was hurt and crying and he was yelling at her. He was so obnoxious that people in the club were  shocked. Fergie was crying and he kept calling her names. So it's ok he did that? He is mature? He is on the level of an abusive husband or boyfriend when he did trhat.  Did you not watch Will's video? Will NEVER has once insulted Perez with an name, and he did not hit him, which perez accused him of.

IF he had been Fergie's boyfriend yelling vile insults in public and  another man or friend gave him a punch, would that be different?  The fact this loser was not her boyfriend makes it ok to abuse a sweet person?  Will was upset his female friend was being huimiliated in public by a bully.   You actually believe he was not insulting Fergie?  YOu believe his bullshit?  Well the reason Will got involved is this "mature" man  you are so upset about made fergie cry with insults.  That is not abusive?  

Sorry but this loser insulted them at the end of the video, and obviously was repeating what he said the day before.  

I think Perez Hilton is a drama queen. I don't believe that he was punched by Will.I.AM I think a fan or someone punched him, there was a lot of people in the way. As for his statement on his website...HA! he said his eye felt like it was falling out...OMG! that's pathetic, come on man! Grow some balls and take it like a man. So what you got punched in the face, you aren't the first person to get punched in the face and you won't be the last. And I find it rather amusing the Perez Hilton called Will.I.Am. a *** when Perez is one himself. Like why would you say that you idiot, your obviously deserved the punch in the face.

"This whole discussion is just a 21st century version of what women and assault victims have been hearing for years. The logic that it falls on the victim to prevent irrational actions of the assailant is really outdated and really, really dangerous. "

Oh my god, that's really not the same at all. Perez writes inflammatory, incendiary things and then interacts with the people he wrote them about expecting no consequences from it. Not only that, but he said awful, derogatory things to someone's face hoping to incite anger, and anger is what he got. How could you ever compare that to a woman being assaulted for "wearing a short skirt"?

perez is NOT a girl, although at times that could be questioned. he was not a victim of domestic violence.  he ran his hateful mouth to the wrong guy, pushed too far and offended to the point of retaliation.. he got smacked down!

he IS DEFINITLY NOT HELPING the gay movement by using the word "***", hurled at someone in anger.  and there's nothing mature about the way he's handling this situation.  the "video statement" posted to his website was ANYTHING BUT mature.  (i have to say that i did get a BIG laugh near the end when he started to cry, tho. so, well done!) he admitted that there was a security guard in his "possee" that night, he didn't feel unsafe..why, the need to jam the toronto emergency lines with calls from his followers? ATTENTION WHORE!! mature? i don't think so!

i do enjoy his site from time to time, but i always leave it thinking how extremely sad it is that he doesn't use that immense opportunity (10 million hits!!)  to spread more good to his audience.

perez REGULARLY taunts and bullies people (jessica simpson,kirstie alley,john mayer,leann rimes, etc.etc.etc.) via twitter, and hatefully shreds them on his site.  

i mean, really, WHO is he (fat, ugly, unfashionably clothed) to comment on ANYONE being "fugly" or "fat"? and his commentary on fashion is almost ALWAYS ill-informed and, well, just plain IGNORANT..

i've only been punched in the face once in life, too..it was because i was running my mouth and said some really stupid, offensive things to the wrong person..looking back, i think i was asking for it. it hurt like hell to take a punch, but i learned a valuable lesson about respect and ABOUT other people's limits to my bad behavior. i hope perez hilton can learn a lesson from this and realize that freedom of speech doesn't mean u can just say whatever u please.

post ur gossip to ur blog, perez, but maybe do it without the hate talk and venom..it really only magnifies ur own shortcomings as a person and clarifies the point that u are still so far from being a MAN.

Perez is no innocent victim; he is a good representative of all that is wrong and ultimately self-destructive about Hollywood and the dangerous practices of new media, with the lack of accountability brought on by the deceptive shield of the Internet. This is the man who, in an attempt to explain his side of the situation, claimed that he wants to be able to parade others' drama but not have any drama of his own. Where's the logic in that. This is the man who garners political and social attention through his well-calculated attempts at gay-rights advocacy, but whose true inclinations, as bubbled to the surface in this incident, lean toward slander and defamation, exemplified by actions like ruining the reputation of a well-respected gay figure and posting inaccurate, unproven claims about deaths of Fidel Castro and Natasha RIchardson. If we are to not label him a victim, then let's at least use this incident to label him as the hypocrite and the slimy Hollywood businessman that he is. Do we really want people (especially children) to read this incident as proof that one can get away with the sort of destructive, unnecessary (none of those he slanders ask for it, just as you can say he didn't ask to be punched) behavior that he not only engages in, but glamorizes, without any consequences?

PS Perez: start fact-checking and proofreading your posts, please.

Are you truly believing what you wrote?  Perez was "mature"??? He was yelling out horrible insults making Fergie cry in a public  place when she simply thought hie blog was a goofy site and asked him why he is hating on her.  She thought they were basically friends and the blog was entertainment. But Perez hurts a woman like that and you call him mature?  And then he ends his ri diculous rant video calling her a fugly bitch?  He has been beating on her for years. Go back and type her name into his disgusting site. He beats on  underage kids like Miley and calls her a slut, he draws penis on her.  He is a woman hating loser.  I can not believe you do not see that verbal abuse is just as bad.   He also lied and blamed Will I am for punching him.   He lied for hours and then changed his story. Also, CHUM FM in toronto send kids to that awards show, and Perez the loser had his entourage take a seat from a kid who won tickets. He intimidated her because he wanted her seat. That is a decent  man?  NO I don't like hitting, but your mouth can be just as bad. You have lost credibility with me.

Perez acting with maturity and restraint? WHAT? Did you miss his long morning-after vlog rant. I think Chris Crocker's "Leave Britney Alone" YouTube speech had more maturity and restraint than Perez has had in the last 24-48 hours.

While I agree that violence is not the answer, sometimes it is the natural consequence. Besides, whatever happened to personal responsibility? Poke a dog with a stick, expect to get bitten. My guess is, people like John Mayer who commented ad nauseum on Twitter (and elsewhere) are tired of having to point out Perez Hilton's obvious double-standard.

THAT is the real reason so many people have applauded the fact that Perez Hilton finally got  the smackdown he's been itching for. He was in that conversation using inflammatory language because he was spoiling for a fight -- and he got it. Then he had the nerve to whine (loudly) about it. I've seen bullies on the playground do exactly the same thing. It's the narcissistic mentality that justifies it, and honestly, the last thing THAT would be is mature.

mAyalaAllen, I respect your opinion, and thanks for your mature response. My point was that, on a greater level of physical violence, by insinuating that provocation leads to a physical attack, you justify the actions of the attacker. I know that this situation between Perez and will.i.am's security guard does not necessarily compare on the same level to other cases of physical violence (especially in the way it was handled post-attack), but I DO think it's important that people begin to switch from a mentality of vocal provocation = physical response.

I realize that's not what you were necessarily suggesting, but the mentality "when you provoke someone, what do you expect?" will be seen by some as justification for physical violence in other scenarios. Thank you though, regardless of disagreements over semantics.

Even seemingly small incidents like this (unfortunately) open up an important dialogue about violence.

For starters what made this attention-worthy was that Perez Hilton LIED on Twitter and said that Will.I.Am assaulted him. When Will.I.Am spoke up (so eloquently) Perez Hilton back peddle vlogg'ed the truth. No matter how you slice it however, Perez Hilton is delusional. I would never back a liar.

Secondly, one needs to look at the whole picture here. Provocation and slandering is just as painful (emotionally) as getting assaulted. Perez Hilton like John Mayer pointed out was riding on said delusion. Thinking that he was impervious and could just say what he wanted to, to whom he wanted to and that people would just keep encouraging his bad behaviour without recourse. Well, someone had enough and in a karmic sensibility "shut his mouth up". I'm sure Perez will in time learn from this, which is the universal lesson here.

Like Will.I.Am said to him. "Have SOME respect, you can be a critic, but have some basis for your disrespect." I have opinions about the entertainment industry everyday and I will share those as need be but always will some sense of decorum. Never blatant disrespect, that's just asking for .... well a slap in the face.

I think John was correct in everything he said. Yes no one should get into physcial fights but it happens especially between men (which is what Perez is intended to be right?) If you dont want to get in a fight you dont get in someones face and call them a ***! He needs to suck it up put his big boy panties on & get over it!!! He says his words cant hurt anyone? Are you serious?!?! Teenagers are commiting suicide over what classmates say, yes words can cause a lot of damage sometimes more damage then a fist! Then to go on twitter and claim it was Will I Am and it wasnt! Im really surprised it took this long for someone to do this with the fact that he talks about young kids and teenagers as well.   Then our society goes and nominates him for a teenchoice award! Thats pathetic

I am sorry but I happened to have had a  friend working at the party where Perez loudly insulted Fergie, who just went up to him thinking that his horrible insults he makes to her are just in jest. He was loudly yelling out verbally abusive insults to her calling her names and embarrasing her.  Fergie went to her bandmate who was the DJ and was very upset. Wil did NOT provoke anything, in fact he just told him to stop doing what he did to Fergie.  Perez was acting like a jerk and yelling horrible things, Wil did none of that even at the place of the punch.  I am sorry but verbal abuse of a woman is not ok.  Perez is disgusting. He insults children on his site, he is a horrid leech who has gained fame degrading people.  To act like his verbal assaults are not equivalent is not what i agree with.  He did his stupid video and ended it verbally abusing the people involved againl. He is vile, his real self came out in the video calling Will a ***.  I am sorry, he is wrong and to act like someone can verbally abuse and get away with it is bull.

I understand the parallel you are trying to make about domestic violence and abuse in general against females. However, perez hilton is a MAN. gay, straight who cares. He is a man that is bigger stronger and more intimidating towards women. What you failed to mention in this entire article is that the whole situation stemmed from perez intimidating and harassing furgy. He is the abuser in this case. He is the aggressor, and when you force aggression on people you must expect aggression in return. Will.i.am did not hit perez hilton, he did nothing but tell him to leave furgy alone and stop disrespecting someone  who has done nothing but be kind to him. People need to chill out on trying to make this into some abuse case. The man go in a woman's face and didn't think that another man would back her up. Sure the manager shouldn't have hit him, but people get punched in the school yard everyday for being foul and rude to smaller and weaker people and there are repercussions. Ask any of your male friends if they have ever been punched. Everyone has, perez is a man, regardless of anything else. He got on the internet and ran around looking for attention throwing ridiculous claims to anyone who will listen. This is not karma this has nothing to do with god, this is a gay man intimidating a woman and having the gaul to continue pushing until something happened and then playing the victim. Its all very sad, pathetic and childish. He has a very disturbing sense of entitlement and twisted world view in which he thinks he can just goof around running his mouth. Frankly, this is all just a big popularity contest and the more perez acts like a child the more intelligent people lose respect for him.

Perez Hilton didn't phone the police when the incident occurred, he actually did it long after he had begun updating his twitter following about the incident. This sets red flags off immediately. Anyone who was legitimately concerned for their safety would phone the police prior to hopping on twitter and telling the world about it. What Perez writes on his blog and said to Will.I.Am IS violence. VERBAL violence. He has tarnished careers with his words and yet feels now that society has somehow wronged him. Imagine if Carrie Prejean had said to Perez, what Perez said to Will.I.Am ... give me a break.

If anyone would like to discuss this further with me I'm on Twitter too,  and I won't post a video blog of me crying if we have a disagreement or altercation.

www.twitter.com/kylefall

Yes, Jillian M, I do. as others have already stated, if they were provoked with harsh words they would lash out the same way. I'm not saying it's right, but one is aware that words bring consequences. It shouldn't be violence. For years people have used words to purposefully provoke others, and this situation is no different. So yes, I do mean that.

If Perez Hilton or whoever else had posted private pictures of me and my boyfriend having sex on his website (as for Dustin Lance Black) I would have definitely went after him and given him, to say the least, a punch..

Same if he called my best friend ugly, fat, tranny, sl*t and whatever else he's been calling Fergie (as for Will.I.Am)..

He's a man, he can take a punch from another man if he decides to live his life bashing people who are, in most cases, 10 years younger than him and that see their pictures embellished with painted bodily fluids or c*cks everywhere..

I don't really know how it can be legitimate comparing a punch to Perez Hilton, calling people names while drunk and else, to the situation of abused women in history..

I smell some friendship between miss Dailey, the author, and big headed Perez.. Wouldn't be surprised if she wrote this piece of nothing (btw, have you seen the categories in which it's included? WTF?) just to have some free tickets to next Lady GaGa's gig..

Perez got punched because he was taking smack and being disrespectful....not because he's gay!!!!!!!!  Gay or straight, if you call me a "fulgy bitch" on top of talking crap about me, I'm calling my boys to do some damage!!!!!  Not to mention him calling Will I am a "***"!!!! He should be lucky that's all he got was punch in the face!!!

Sorry - this is my third and last comment:

For the record, and in response to the article, I do adore John Mayer. I think, while he may have stooped to the same level by airing his opinion about this in public and teasing Perez about the situation, I think he's genuinely coming from a place of "learn how to rise above it and not call people f*****s". I think that's how everyone feels in response to this.

The confrontation was handled very poorly by both parties - but still, responding with punches wasn't necessary.

Good for Perez Hilton...he got what he deserved...I am against violence but I am making an exception for him. It is not okay to hurt people with either your fists or your words and Perez thinks he can say what he wants, when he wants..that is NOT acceptable!

He called someone a f*ggot..if it had been the other way round, we will be calling the other party anti-gay!

I do not even want to bring up the Miss California situation...calling her a B*itch and c*unt.

All I can say is Karma baby..

Interesting how you pick and choose certain comments that Perez made to prove your point. You say that Perez is  "responding with a maturity and restraint absent from his earlier...life's work, really."  But you conveniently left out the part where he calls Fergie (on his taped statement) a "fugly bitch" Why? For daring to ask him why he talks crap about her. Also, you point out all the ways in violence is never the answer, but fail to mention the ways in which violence is so horrible in the first place. violence not only cause physical harm but emotional and mental harm as well. So in some very important ways, physical violence causes the same issues as verbal assault...but to point that out would be to Perez's detriment. Also, the fact that Perz was angry at Will.I.AM's angry request did not give Perez the right to call him a ***, but once again Perez gets a pass. Isaiah Washington loses a career, Perez gets a pass. Also, Perez FALSELY accused Will of assaulting him, but, yet again, you give him a pass. In a world where black men have been thrown in jail on the false reports of white people, this in NOT RIGHT, once again Perez gets a pass. Perez should not have been hit. PERIOD. And Miley Cyrus should not be referred to (in word or sketch) as a teenage whore. PERIOD. I do hope that the person who assaulted him faces criminal justice. PERIOD. And I hope that Perez learns that having "Hollywood's Most-Hated Web Site! " is an admission that words do wound. Until we live in a perfect society, where violence is never used, no matter what someone says, it would be wise to take a break from the world of blog and join the real world and see how life really is for those less than perfect beings who can't hide behind the internet.

That was exceptionally well said! Does Perez Hilton pi$$ people off? Well, yes in fact he does seem to quite regularly. However, remember that saying we all heard as kids? "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me." Perez spews a lot of stuff that seems to really upset people. Is it right? Perhaps not, in fact he should prescribe to the "do unto others" himself. This is how Perez unfortunately makes his living, and a good one at that. For all the verbal bashing he receives, he is also successful at it. Many people visit his site, and if people are so against the things he says, why go there? But they do anyhow.

Then, they themselves-state that he deserved it...As he said, Violence is never the answer and I have to agree. People need to let his upsetting comments roll of their back-not resort to violence. That is never ok. I am neither a Perez lover or hater, and am not truly aware of all that he has said about others, however I can not help but feel sorry for him. He was after all the one that was assaulted...We could go on about whether he "deserved it" forever. My humble opinion is that no one ever deserves to be hit.

Let him spew whatever he wishes-it is after all a free country right? With free speech right? What it is not-is a country where you are allowed to assault somone when you don't like what they have said...I am sure I will be bashed  by Perez haters for not writing hateful things about him--that's ok with me-you have the right to say whatever you like...just don't hit me!

"Perez Hilton is responding with a level maturity"??  Apparently Kate Dailey failed to watch Perez Hilton's dramatic video whereby he attempted to justify his use of an anti-gay expletive: http://perezhilton.com/2009-06-22-my-statement

That was exceptionally well said! Does Perez Hilton pi$$ people off? Well, yes in fact he does seem to quite regularly. However, remember that saying we all heard as kids? "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me." Perez spews a lot of stuff that seems to really upset people. Is it right? Perhaps not, in fact he should prescribe to the "do unto others" himself. This is how Perez unfortunately makes his living, and a good one at that. For all the verbal bashing he receives, he is also successful at it. Many people visit his site, and if people are so against the things he says, why go there? But they do anyhow.

Then, they themselves-state that he deserved it...As he said, Violence is never the answer and I have to agree. People need to let his upsetting comments roll of their back-not resort to violence. That is never ok. I am neither a Perez lover or hater, and am not truly aware of all that he has said about others, however I can not help but feel sorry for him. He was after all the one that was assaulted...We could go on about whether he "deserved it" forever. My humble opinion is that no one ever deserves to be hit.

Let him spew whatever he wishes-it is after all a free country right? With free speech right? What it is not-is a country where you are allowed to assault somone when you don't like what they have said...I am sure I will be bashed  by Perez haters for not writing hateful things about him--that's ok with me-you have the right to say whatever you like...just don't hit me!

I would agree with this completely if Perez didn't say what he did with the intent of antagonizing the other party involved.  He has admitted that his intent was to antagonize.  And while I do not feel that he deserved to be punched, no matter what, he does bear some responsibility in this and it's hard to back someone who refuses to take said responsibility

Wow - I'm not sure I agree with this article equating all forms of provoked physical violence.  I'm trying to think what I would do if I was walking down the street with my wife and someone got in my face and called a dirty Jew scumbag that deserved to die and then called my wife a cheap sleazy whore, and let's say he spit on her to boot.  I think I would punch that person in the face, and I think if I witnessed anyone else doing the same I would approve. I'm not suggesting that Perez got what he deserved but rather I think there are gradients, nuances, etc. as with everything in life and it's not necessarily going down a slippery slope to acknowledge that.

mAyalaAllen said: "When you provoke someone, what do you expect?"

Hopefully you don't actually mean that.

It was disgusting to see people wishing death and bodily harm upon Perez, I myself have met him and he is very humble...things get heated in the moment, everyone has been there where they have said the wrong thing, BEATING SOMEONE is never the ANSWER! Live Life, Love one another, it's not Karma, it's a situation that turned ugly and I am glad he is okay.

Well written article...

xoxo Boudoir Queen

http://www.theboudoirqueen.com/

Uhm...physical abuse is no more important than other types of abuse.  A victimizer is rarely a true victim.  I do think it was wrong to hit Perez.  I do think it was wrong for Perez to lash out at Will.i.am when it wasn't Will.i.am's fist that hit his face.  

Perception is everything.  Perez links the incident to a verbal spar between himself and the Black Eyed Peas.  The Black Eyed Peas have taken quite the beating from Perez.  Abuse in the media hurts more than a bump on the eye - ask anyone if they'd rather have a bump in the eye or a lose tons of money.  It's all relative.  

As for John Mayer - he's a freakin' GENIUS and quite entertaining.  

~V

okay. so I agree completely with the fact that perez shouldn't have been hit. at the worst he should have been b****ed out. & I think no one really knows the full story, and that we all should mind our own business. I love john mayer, & I think what he was just trying to tell him to stop whining to the public about your problems. it's simple if you insult someone after a little suggestion  you're going to have to deal with the consequence, this one not being so good. so seriously watch what you say & stop making such a scene. & if anyone a *** it's you (I have nothing against homosexuals, but you just annoy me)

What about the fact that Perez verbally assaults people on a daily bases? What about the fact that he defames people on a daily basis....What bout the fact that he used a completely derogitory slur directed at Will.I.Am to get a rise out of him on purpose. Any time anyone else, gay or straight uses that word he will read them the riot act...He got in someone face and called them a horrible name. He's lucky he only got punched in my opinion.

Here's where your argument loses a little bit of ground: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7na_QLcs--U

Perez Hilton being mature about the situation? WHAT!? I'm sorry, but being mature about the situation would have started with not calling someone else a "***" and ended with not making an eleven minute long video about the situation. You are correct in saying that no one deserves to get punched in the face because of a blog, but Perez, in no way, has been handling this maturely.

While I do agree that no deserves to be hit, the situation over all could have been handled better. Hilton did not need to take to Twitter, that causes a chaos all it's own. And his video blog did not seem mature at all. Will.I.Am had a more mature blog, in the way that it was handled. Hilton provoked with his words, and he knew that his words would have some kind of affect.

Sometimes words hurt more than physical actions, and they stir up emotions. The law cannot dictate one's emotions to hurtful words. I'm not defending either one of the people in this situation. In my opinion it shouldn't have happened. Stories don't match up fully, but words can be hurtful. This whole issue has been handled with immaturity, on all parts. No one deserves to be hit, but when you provoke someone, what do you expect?

Amen!

Whether or not people like Perez Hilton, it was really distressing to me to see SO many men and women praise or laugh off physical violence. Did will.i.am say some rude things to Perez? Yes. Did Perez say some disgusting things to will.i.am? Yes, but while that may not be right, resorting to physical violence is and will NEVER be OK.

All of those anxious twitterers yesterday who were so quick to laugh about it need to look deeper at why exactly anyone would ever laugh about something like this. People who resort to physical violence don't have street cred, they aren't bada**, and they certainly aren't tough. They're weak people who don't know how to handle a situation with words, so they find a way to silence the other person with violence. This incident is one of many, and just grazes the tip of the iceberg.

Well freaking SAID! Im gay and I love perez, sometimes he crosses the line on this site. But hey its his site, he can say what he wants we do not have to read it. It makes my stomach turn that he used the F word since I look up 2 him for helping the gay cause. He should have not been hit at all at the end of the day if I put myself in his shoes. I make videos on youtube saying crazy stuff but I would hope people would fight back with there words not there fist.

What John Mayer had to say was very true. He hit home when he said "@perezhilton people don't want to see you hurt, they want to see you experience something equalizing". Perez Hilton doesn't understand this. This is the root of everybody's frustration with him. And as John went on to say, Perez just doesn't want to understand. It seems like he is reveling in being a victim of violence, because in his mind, it puts him with Rihanna and the many women who are struggling with domestic violence. But his situation can't be more different, given his violent and mean-spirited nature.