Pages of Wrath: A New Book Looks At Why We Seek Revenge

re: Pages of Wrath: A New Book Looks At Why We Seek Revenge

Lovewisdom — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 03:57:36 GMT

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re: Pages of Wrath: A New Book Looks At Why We Seek Revenge

CanWeBeHonest — Sat, 20 Jun 2009 01:26:47 GMT

Some points to consider.

Does Eva Nagorski realize that, despite writing that "he" is "about to kick you to the curb" that the majority of divorces are filed by...women?

Do men get a sympathetic ear when they get kicked to the curb? Or in the minds of most, did they deserve being fired and if they mention their hurt are they thought of as sniveling babies?

When a woman is deemed selfish or no longer wanted (just as they mostly do to men) their pain is justified and to call them sniveling, immature brats locked on to your life like a pitbull on a leg, consumed with vengeance, that is culturally acceptable and for some reason, amongst women, humorous.

A man reacts poorly to being hurt and seeing his life turned upside down, maybe losing significant or most time with his children, he is a crazy ex-husband but a woman committing revenge is swept under the rug by society, the law included and not labeled for what it is -- psychotic behavior.

Do a nationwide poll and see how prevalent this behavior is. It's not funny, it's not acceptable, it's a childish tantrum that often goes on for years, unchecked. It hurts children often. It's abusive, but because of the gender of the abuser it gets a pass.

To deny men can be maniacs in relationships or afterwards would be dishonest too. But those nut jobs usually get what they deserve. Not always, but usually.

Men, like women, can look at time spent and invested in someone who lives mostly for themselves, as time wasted too. It's a pathetic excuse for a man, just as it is for a spoiled women.

We need to expect the same standards of behavior for both sexes, quit giving passes to poor behavior period, and call it what it is -- childish tantrums, not women getting what's due them.

re: Pages of Wrath: A New Book Looks At Why We Seek Revenge

nico_writes — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 22:29:16 GMT

I agree with CanWeBeHonest. I think men can get their hearts broken too. I've only seen it once as opposed to at least 20 times with my girlfriends, but I am sure it happens. I also agree that we as a society overlook abused men because we have a sense that they, "deserve" it. However, I must say that the reason more women file for divorce than men is because they have been cheated on and abused in far greater numbers and so it makes sense that they would be the ones to leave. In my case, my husband whom I had caught cheating before told me, "You can't make me leave here. I can go out and sleep with who ever I want and I can still come home." He was right. I couldn't legally make him leave and I had to put up with watching him shower and shave for his dates. So I think more women than men have experienced this kind of thing and so maybe we find revenge more appealing. But just keep in mind that whatever you might inflict in the short term; living well without them is really the best revenge. My husband's girlfriend finally made him leave me (I am grateful to her) and I will never forget the look on his face a few years later at our daughter's birthday party when she got her cake and took her plate and sat down beside my very kind boyfriend to watch a movie. I caught my ex- husband's eye as he looked at my new guy with my daughter on one side and me on the other. That was all I needed because in that moment I knew he understood that he had been replaced by a better man and that man was happy with the life he himself had thrown away. So just live well and forget about the petty stuff. Be happy.