Is Mark Sanford Crazy in Love, or Just Crazy? We Call in Professional Help

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Apolitical — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 21:58:12 GMT

I vote just plain crazy. Put in stupid too. Stupid and/or crazy is a common GOP affliction. You don't have to go very far. Look at Limbaugh, O'Reily, father and daughter Cheney, Hannity, Glen Beck, Michelle Bachmann, Anne Coulter... (wow, can Newsweek give me more space for more names?)

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Vivaldi — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 02:04:06 GMT

Don't forget Bill Clinton... being stupid enough to have an affair while in office seems to be one of the few things that politicians share no matter what party they belong to.

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rioguy — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 07:07:50 GMT

Sanford is simply human. He's a married guy who like a good percentage of married guys is probably bored with his wife and his hum drum married life.The difference is that he had options. His job gave him opportunities to meet someone who could put a spark back in his heart whereas most married men who are unhappy with their situations are stuck in a whatever square mile radius box of work, home, the supermarket, their kids, the mall, and the local Home Depot. Given the opportunity to step out of that box to say a cross country business meeting where the odds of no one ever knowing multiplies and alot of guys would take a plunge in that forbidden pool as well. This has nothing to do with him being stupid, crazy, Republican, or Democrat. This is simply the story of a guy who fell out of love with his wife, had the opportunity to replace her with someone that he found sexy and loving, and took the chance at new love. Love is never free and this is the price one pays when they find love in somewhere other than their marriage.

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rioguy — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 07:56:30 GMT

At this point its not even about saving his marriage. His marriage is done and at this point if he gets back with his wife he'll be a sad, miserable man lying in bed next to a woman he's not attracted to all the while knowing his love is thousands of miles away. Women are always saying, " Save the Marriage" because the idea of the institution of marriage is the only thing they really care about. The don't care that the husband is as miserable as can be. Just "Save the Marriage". At this point Sanford should be trying to save his relationship with his sons. Of course the wife is willing to stick around because that gives her more chances to make his life a walking hell.

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jefmol — Sun, 05 Jul 2009 11:48:21 GMT

His love is thousands of miles away??? When someone has only seen another person...in person...5 times and "gotten to know them" thru email...that isn't love, it's infactuation. Its this funny little biological process that happens to people when they first meet, but is scientifically proven not to last. Put Sandford and Maria together raising their 6 kids for a year or two and see how desperately in love they are and how much passion is left. Give me a break. This guy is a schmo and he really needs to just stop talking. If his wife wasn't turned off by him before, seeing his dribbling, whining pathetic interviews ought to do it.

This has nothing to do with real love...the Hollywood version of love maybe...but there is nothing real going on here except his shocking inability to handle the situation with dignity.

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rioguy — Sun, 05 Jul 2009 20:06:59 GMT

If anyone believes he's only seen the woman in Argentina 5 times in 8 years I have a bridge to sell them. Sanford is known for this type of disappearing act and I'd wager a fair sum that alot of those times he was meeting up with his mistress. One thing is for sure; his love is not in South Carolina. If it turns out to be real love it wouldn't be the first relationship started from long distance.

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diana222 — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 11:31:38 GMT

Gov. Mark SAnford is bipolar, if anyone is. Any family who has a member that suffers from BP can recognize it in others. Why does soneone not help this man? The symptoms are all there. Just like the run away bride a few years back,evident to any one who knows the issue. BP occurs in almost every family, estimates are as high as one in ten persons are BP. Get The gov. some help.

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rdepontb — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 11:35:16 GMT

Governor Sanford---all elected officials---should occasionally look back in history for some guidance. On a variety of matters, of course.

In this case, looking back to the pain Clinton brought his dear wife, and entire nation, should be caution enough. Then there is Gary Hart's nonsense with that child of a girl. Ditto John Edwards, Newt Gingrich (springing his mistress on his bed-ridden, post-cancer-surgery wife??), John Ensign...I'll stop at the straighforward ones.

Maybe the best lesson, aside from those of President's Reagan, GHW Bush, and Obama, comes from President Jimmy Carter. He admitted to "lust in his heart" for several women in his past. This is a perfectly natural and healthy outlet for what our hormones and occasionally less than ideal situations can do to us men. "Nice legs on her" or "she's sure in great shape" or "that is one beautiful woman---got eyes like Sophia Loren, don't you think?" are far less painful, far closer to the temporary truth. Should have left it at that.

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strangetimes — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 12:41:26 GMT

Absolutely true that many, if not most, politicians tend toward the narcissistic side. To pawn Gov. Sanford's behavior off as being due to "bipolar disorder" jumps on the bandwagon that is responsible for the overuse and misuse of the diagnosis, which is now a catchall for any number of behaviors that exhibit poor judgement, mood fluctuations due to stress or drugs, and problems with anger. Certainly Gov. Sanford displays poor judgement, but he and the many politicians who have displayed such lofty forms of hypocrisy do so more for reasons of flawed character. And more than likely, this is the manner in which he responds when things don't go his way, and the narcissistic injury is too much to bear. Perhaps the lure of the "forbidden fruit" makes him feel a bit more powerful, or at least like he still has control of something that he is taking for himself when he feels beaten up....and couching his public confessions and his affair as part of a "journey" in a spiritual or religious sense just drips of desperation. The loss of his image on the public stage has him bewildered and confused.

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lovetheleftwing — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 13:10:10 GMT

Seriously...yet another political official who touted the "Family Values" line has been found with his pants down. So what if they get bored in their marriage...that doesn't in any way validate what he has done to his family and the state of SC. He is panicking because he is watching the life as he know it swirl down the drain. I feel zero sympathy for these hyprocrites! He needs to pack his bags and head the hell out of office.

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anonymousmd — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 13:11:49 GMT

Governor Sanford's actions and statement are very suggestive of sex and love addiction. Surprisingly, most physicians do not have a clue about its existence besides a few in psychiatry. It is a very common addiction which affects about 6% of the population.

There is good news. There are many resources for those who have this problem. There are 12 step meetings (SA, SLAA, SAA, etc) as well as a few inpatient facilities (The Meadows in Arizona and Gentle Path in Mississippi).

I suggest that the media should become a bit more aware of this problem rather than presenting this issue as another piece of garbage entertainment.

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Zippy1 — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 13:39:25 GMT

What was the point of this interview? The answers here are basically, I don't know, I guess, maybe, This is such a compelling story but this article shed absolutely no light on the subject.

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sms29s66 — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 13:43:38 GMT

The reason this qualifies as garbage entertainment is Governor Sanford's notion that he is the first man in the history of the universe to fall in love and his determination to be sure that we all know about it.

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bsolue — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 13:50:10 GMT

o yeah, another one bites the dust. Maybe the Republicans should just run McCain again in 2012.

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dfrynews — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 14:12:08 GMT

Bipolar? Sex addiction? How about he's just another person who made bad choices and is now paying the natural consequences. There's nothing "wrong" with him. He just did whatever he wanted to, and that doesn't usually work well in a marriage relationship, where you ought to put the other person ahead of yourself. He's not ill, or sick, or in need of any diagnosis. He made choices based on his own desires, apparently without really thinking them through. On a personal level, it seems that he cannot be trusted; his word is not sufficient - even his vows are not sufficient. As an elected official, this lack of personal integrity makes him unfit to serve. He cannot keep his word to the person closest to him in life, but apparently acts only in his own self-interest - how can he be trusted to act on others' interests?

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jwolfbauer — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 14:51:56 GMT

Sanford is beyond crazy. Jenny could do a lot better and I hope she does. We all need to get rid of this baggage, and all those who don't take their jobs seriously. What he did to his wife and boys, just goes to show you he thought of this woman and did not give a you know what for the people of SC. Make him resign!

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becca479 — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 14:58:51 GMT

OMG--I can't believe that a professional would even dare state that he probally had an affair because he was not getting the intimacy at home---and you're a WOMAN! I think you should start getting out more and realize men don't stray for the lack of intimacy at home but that it's exciting to them and they can all of a sudden feel like they are 16 again!! Most mature men find a way to do that with the spouse they have committed to, and find an even deeper intimacy with there own life partner!!

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nico_writes — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 16:00:44 GMT

Where did this therapist go to school? The middle ages? Men don't cheat because they aren't getting the intimacy they need. They cheat because it's an exciting way to feed the ego and the danger makes everything seem all the more intense. Like, "see how much I love you, see what I am risking for you?"

I submit that men don't ever lack intimacy. Women are all about the intimacy. There isn't a woman around who isn't trying to be more intimate with their partner. It's part of the design. This therapist should get some help of her own and try to figure out why she is seeing the world in such a patronizing way.

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Valor40 — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 16:06:41 GMT

Rioguy, Seriously? There are a lot of people, both men AND women, out there that are not happy with their marriages, it's not just guys. If Sanford was feeling emotional problems with his marriage then he should have sat down and talked about it with his wife FIRST. Communication is what is lacking and people seem to want to take the easy way out in the arms of another person because the grass always looks greener...

But this isn't just about him, it's about his four sons as well. And for the sake of their mental health he needs stop airing all this nonsense out in public. As for the marriage, he shouldn't even bother. It's over. If you are unhappy in a relationship, talk about it, work on it, and if it can't be fixed then end it and move on.

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jerzyboy349 — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 16:10:07 GMT

apolitical: your name is a total lie, so why don't you come clean instead of accusing others of dishonesty. You sound like a left-wing Democratic fanatic. As if Democrats can do no wrong. Are you serious? Can we begin with JFK who probably cheated on his wife every day of the week, and it wasn't for the sake of love. Be sure of that. No, there certainly is no room here for all of the sleezy Democrats, both past and present.

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rioguy — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 16:18:28 GMT

Sanfiord is not crazy, bipolar,sick or any of the above. He's just another guy who made up wild excuses to cover up an affair. Not unlike thousands if not millions of married men who go on "fishing trips", "golf weekends", "vacations with the fellas", "guys night out", and "business trips". I'm not saying all of these guys are having affairs but you can rest assured that some are and in many cases the old tree falling in the woods making a sound or not axiom comes into play because in cases where the wife never finds out life goes on as usual. And Becca479; men definitely stray because of lack of intimacy at home because intimacy = excitement. If you ever hear an old couple talking about their intimacy they'll say it makes them feel like they were 20 again. Of course that's what men who stray are looking for because the alternative is a coldness that makes a 40 year old man feel like he's 90. There are plenty of men and women who are no less mature and maybe more so than the day they were married who could no longer find intimacy with their spouse. It works both ways. Is every woman who cheats on her husband immature or crazy? of course not and neither is every man. For all we know Jenny could be a nagging, coldhearted shrew or she could be a sweet 50 year old woman who just wants to take care of her boys and has no inclination towards intimacy. Maybe she's known about his cheating all along and just hung in there for the kids with nothing at all between them. She definitely doesn't seem that distraught about it so its possible they've been kaput for awhile. All in all he's just another person who chose not to love their spouse. Falling in love may be an uncontrollable, unconscious act but falling out of love is a well thought out, scripted plan.

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rioguy — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 16:33:00 GMT

Valor40. True there are alot of people both men and women unhappy in their marriages which would account for the yearly increases in the divorce rate. Fewer and fewer couples are working it out and more and more are moving on and how do we know that the Sanfords haven't sat down and talked it out. He's already admitted to other affairs over the years. Their marriage seems like one that started out as a marriage of convienience. She's an heiress to millions of dollars. She bankrolled his early campaigns. Like many power broker couples( the Clintons and Kennedys) the wives look the other way when the husbands stray because the pact they've made leads to the Whitehouse. I agree that if he can he should continue to be a father to his sons. That gets a little more difficult when the wife who has custody knows you're seeing someone else.

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dpnelson — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 21:47:34 GMT

All this angst, when the answer should be so simplistic. Get a divorce, move to Argentina, marry his soulmate, get a job acting on a telenovela, and "live happily ever after." What more should he want? (Sorry, the White House is out!)

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Reggie Greene / The Logistician — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 05:08:02 GMT

From my perspective, the issue is quite simple. Rightly or wrongly, he has lost a substantial number of people who are willing to support him, place confidence in him, and trust him. A leader needs as many people believing in him or her as possible.

As for resignation, http://www.tinyurl.com/n3vlg3

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jordan c. fan — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 23:42:28 GMT

SANFORD AND SON.

By: Jordan C. Fan, Prophet of Environment.

Warning: No professional help is needed, just leave Mark Sanford alone! He is entitled to love.

SANFORD NEEDS SONS.

LIKE THE TV SERIES, "SANFORD AND SON"

Like the TV Series, "Sanford and Son." Who can really blame him for wanting to have more sons to carry on his family name and tradition by increasing his offsprings. Therefore he needs to have sex with more women The important thing is not to wear condoms when he was having sex.

More than likely it was also a conspiracy staged by Barack Obama and his Democrats supporters especially Black to set him up using beautiful women similar to what they have done for other White politcal figures such as the former NY governor(s). Their purpose is to replace them with Blacks.

Who would not doubt that Obama has never committed adultery.

Sanford should be allowed to enjoy his life as usual without anymore interference. In fact Obama should share his wife with Sanford if he wants a hybrid "SON" like himself!

Ha! Ha!........

American Fools!!!!

Republicans, Mark Sanford and sons should thank me for this comment.